[-] Bloom 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Twenty seconds of courage.

Pretend you’re full of confidence and lift yourself up. You’re now the most social person ever existed. You can handle any social situation even this one.

Now, do the thing you want to do and do it for at least twenty seconds. Take your time doing it.

Often it turns out it wasn’t that scary or didn’t go as bad as you thought it would and you can continue doing it. If it does, it’s okay, you tried and that counts too. Practice makes perfect. Also know that how others act is not a reflection of your self worth.

Just a gentle reminder to give yourself some love.

[-] Bloom 9 points 8 months ago

Yay, I am so happy to read this!! You have a big heart! Thanks for spreading love in this world

[-] Bloom 8 points 9 months ago

I’d love to join too ! I don’t know any communities on Matrix, but if there’s none we can start one

[-] Bloom 7 points 9 months ago

Trans girl checking in! 🏳️‍⚧️ 😇

[-] Bloom 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

My week was emotional but good! I finally came out to my brother as trans. I was so scared for his reaction.

I prepared a letter, I read it out loud to him half crying and I noticed he had watery eyes too. When I finished reading he hugged me 🥰 and said he just want me to be happy and I felt soooo relieved. Afterwards I received a very thoughtful and supportive message from his gf, who I told him could tell too later. This helps me so much with accepting myself for who I am.

I also baked a cheese cake and some french pastries for an Easter brunch at my mom’s. The brunch was great!

[-] Bloom 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I see it a bit differently. I think your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

Edit: No reply.. I was hoping for a good discussion, but I guess that’s out of the question as you did reply with insensitive and superficial comments to others 🤷‍♀️ You can do better

[-] Bloom 12 points 9 months ago

Yay! Congratz Kaityy ! Welcomee 🥰

[-] Bloom 16 points 9 months ago

Zea couldn’t have said it better haha

For me it helps a lot to talk about it. About all of it really! About what bothers me, what gives me joy and anything in between.

I recently joined a group therapy while I wait for a specialist to talk to. I hesitated going to the group sessions, because it was scary to be so vulnerable to complete strangers, but I’m so glad I did it! It helps to see others struggle with similar stuff and hear how they deal with it. And everyone is so helpful and supportive! I love it 🥰

[-] Bloom 8 points 9 months ago

Woow! You look a-mazing, it’s really cute!

[-] Bloom 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I had dinner with a couple of old close friends. I wasn’t ready to tell them about me yet. The whole dinner just felt weird not being able to talk about it.

I didn’t know how to act: myself or pretend and I felt a bit sick going back and forward between them. It was good to see my friends but the whole thing was just exhausting.

[-] Bloom 12 points 10 months ago

Thank youuu! Yes she’s truly amazing 😊 I’m baking her an apple pie this weekend as a little thank you for the happy moment and the dress ☺️

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Bloom to c/mtf

[CW?: supportive family member]

Hii girls! Omg I just had an amazing experience with my mom and I needed to share. My mom and I have been chatting about online shopping and my mom had just bought some dress and a maxi skirt. She showed me both and I said they both look cute and how she had such a good taste.

Then she explained the dress didn’t really fit her well and then I noticed she hesitated to ask me something. And I was like mommm what’s up and she asks me if I wanted to try the dress. I said yes!! Omg and girls the dress looked so unexpectedly great on me I almost cried. I needed a hug and told my mom this made me so happy. She was like: ooohh but then it’s so clear to me now. It’s so clear. 🥰 She told my I could have the dress 😊 Then she pulled out other dresses for me to try.

I told her it was so great to have our first “mother daughter”-moment and we both had tears in our eyes of happiness. That’s allll! Sending you all my love ❤️

[-] Bloom 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Hi probably Amber, congrats! Great name btw :) It’s great that you wrote all this down! Writing can really help processing all the things on your mind! At least it does for me. When I was exploring I started to write everything I wanted to in a diary and it can be such a relieve sometimes just to put all your thoughts on paper or your phone.

My advice as a freshly cracked egg: Take it a step at a time. Maybe create a little timeline: 1. Get a therapist 2. Research what to do about balding 3. make a plan to lose weight etc

Do one little scary thing at a time and repeat until it’s no longer scary.

The only way is forward; you can make new girly memories. I started to, consciously and unconsciously, mimic women around me. Just like a little girl would I suppose to learn how to be a woman.

Sorry if I have too much unwanted advice!

Know that you’re not alone & be kind to yourself ❤️

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