Hey, I am sorry that this happened to you! That’s absolutely awful and disgusting behaviour. Fact is, this person doesn’t know anything about you and the way they act is a reflection of themselves, not you. You are valid.

Sending love and huuuugs 🩷

Okay first off, you’re not being insane by having these questions.. those are some totally valid questions. this would stress me out as well. It’s totally okay to feel conflicted about this. Is this something you could check with your doctor or HRT supplier? Preferably this is something you want to get from a qualified health professional.

If I were to guess— it should be fine if you follow a healthy diet. Your body needs energy to grow and maintain itself. It will use it to create new cells, from blood cells, skin, hair, nails to breasts. Reducing calorie intake will make your body work to convert fats into glucose, as a source of energy, in order to keep your body going. So those fats will be used as a source of energy for your body. So by that logic it should be fine? It would be problematic if you don’t have the fats to begin with or if you reduce intake too much and your body cannot keep up at the rate of burning fats. So dropping calorie intake entirely would likely have impact. You need a healthy balance.

Now unfortunately, burning fats is a slow process and this is high school biology at best so take it with a grain of salt. Best to check with a qualified professional. Or if you don’t have the luxury, ask around like you are already doing and find a person previously in a similar scenario. If you do have the luxury please ask.

Hope this helps 🩷

Edit: I also found these links:

• https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/13m8k0r/will_losing_weight_while_starting_hrt_affect/
• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7252590/

Twenty seconds of courage.

Pretend you’re full of confidence and lift yourself up. You’re now the most social person ever existed. You can handle any social situation even this one.

Now, do the thing you want to do and do it for at least twenty seconds. Take your time doing it.

Often it turns out it wasn’t that scary or didn’t go as bad as you thought it would and you can continue doing it. If it does, it’s okay, you tried and that counts too. Practice makes perfect. Also know that how others act is not a reflection of your self worth.

Just a gentle reminder to give yourself some love.

Yay, I am so happy to read this!! You have a big heart! Thanks for spreading love in this world

I’d love to join too ! I don’t know any communities on Matrix, but if there’s none we can start one

My week was emotional but good! I finally came out to my brother as trans. I was so scared for his reaction.

I prepared a letter, I read it out loud to him half crying and I noticed he had watery eyes too. When I finished reading he hugged me 🥰 and said he just want me to be happy and I felt soooo relieved. Afterwards I received a very thoughtful and supportive message from his gf, who I told him could tell too later. This helps me so much with accepting myself for who I am.

I also baked a cheese cake and some french pastries for an Easter brunch at my mom’s. The brunch was great!

I see it a bit differently. I think your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

Edit: No reply.. I was hoping for a good discussion, but I guess that’s out of the question as you did reply with insensitive and superficial comments to others 🤷‍♀️ You can do better

Yay! Congratz Kaityy ! Welcomee 🥰

Zea couldn’t have said it better haha

For me it helps a lot to talk about it. About all of it really! About what bothers me, what gives me joy and anything in between.

I recently joined a group therapy while I wait for a specialist to talk to. I hesitated going to the group sessions, because it was scary to be so vulnerable to complete strangers, but I’m so glad I did it! It helps to see others struggle with similar stuff and hear how they deal with it. And everyone is so helpful and supportive! I love it 🥰

Woow! You look a-mazing, it’s really cute!

Thank youuu! Yes she’s truly amazing 😊 I’m baking her an apple pie this weekend as a little thank you for the happy moment and the dress ☺️

Hi probably Amber, congrats! Great name btw :) It’s great that you wrote all this down! Writing can really help processing all the things on your mind! At least it does for me. When I was exploring I started to write everything I wanted to in a diary and it can be such a relieve sometimes just to put all your thoughts on paper or your phone.

My advice as a freshly cracked egg: Take it a step at a time. Maybe create a little timeline: 1. Get a therapist 2. Research what to do about balding 3. make a plan to lose weight etc

Do one little scary thing at a time and repeat until it’s no longer scary.

The only way is forward; you can make new girly memories. I started to, consciously and unconsciously, mimic women around me. Just like a little girl would I suppose to learn how to be a woman.

Sorry if I have too much unwanted advice!

Know that you’re not alone & be kind to yourself ❤️