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submitted 8 months ago by SorryforSmelling to c/socialanxiety

Hey it is me the Mod of this Community. Phew, its been a hot minute since i posted anything. Just took a quick one year social avoidance nap (not that bad, but i had little resources left to be online)

A long time ago i did these General Discussion posts, where everyone could chit chat and share whats going on. I really liked that and want to bring it back. I wont promise to participate myself each week, such as we all should respect our social battery.

So lets here what happend in 2024?

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Introduction (self.socialanxiety)
submitted 2 years ago by SorryforSmelling to c/socialanxiety

Hello all you beautiful people, I am glad you are here.

Who is this Hub for? This Hub is for anyone who finds modern social life daunting. It's a place to vent, forge low-stakes connections, and most importantly, a secure space to simply be yourself without judgment. Whether you've been officially diagnosed, suspect you may be dealing with these issues, or are simply seeking resources and understanding, this space is here for you.

Who runs this Hub? This Hub is created, moderated by a socialphobe who has spent several years to find their own spot in this world, and wants to help others' find their way in life, so they can feel save and fulfilled.

Why this Hub was created I realise it is a bit ironic to create a space on a social platform for people who struggle with being social. But I still feel it's relevant to have online spaces where people with anxieties can feel safer and can find community, connection and understanding.

So please feel welcome! Since this is a new Hub and not fully formed yet, I am always open to feedback, criticisms and inspirations. Feel free to reach out to me via DM or Post.

I wish everyone a nice time :)

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submitted 1 month ago by thatradomguy@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety

Wait no, actually I don't. Boo ice breakers. Booo

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submitted 1 month ago by Turret3857@infosec.pub to c/socialanxiety

Hi, I apologize if this isn't exactly "on-topic" so to speak, but I am not sure where else to go and I want to get my thoughts out somewhere.

I find it difficult to make real life friends, not because I necessarily have social anxiety but because I feel so disconnected from the reality everyone around me seems to be a part of. I live in the US, and I imagine I don't need to explain the current state of the country to a lemmy community. I'm a leftist progressive, who also happens to be very privacy/foss focused. I also have a couple mental disorders that make it more difficult to "properly" socialize. I find it hard to relate to people who use mainstream social media, as when I hear or see people talk about it, all I see is the abuse of the working class. I see data harvesting and propaganda. I find it hard not to bring this up when talking to others, as it's a core belief. I see it as fundamentally wrong that we allow ourselves to be whored out to data brokers for a quick hit of dopamine. I see the US falling into fascism and into a country of slavery (again) if we dont start advocating for workers rights and for the removal of the current admin. I use Linux, CalyxOS, I self host. I protest, I vote in local elections, and primaries. I like playing video games when I can bring myself to it. I have been enjoying the new DELTARUNE chapters, and am hoping to find a switch 2 (to keep offline and wait for homebrew)

The reason I mention these things is I feel so different from other people, and don't know if its possible to find people who will want to be friends with me now. I'm not in college anymore, I graduated and I live in a somewhat suburban area. I have an s/o, and they're supportive of my beliefs, but they also find it hard to make friends. Where should I go from here? Is my only solution really just sucking it up and have my internal monologue scream at me while listening to 'friends' talk about subjects and situations that trigger my inner activist to go off? Or are there possibly other people out there like me who I just haven't found yet? I know that friendships have to make compromises, but fuck if its hard to compromise on things you see as violating human rights.

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submitted 2 months ago by thatradomguy@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety

I have had very few in my life, I think, but I feel as though those one or two experiences I had where strangers showed me compassion despite my difference may have shaped me into how I am today.

Do you feel like you had or have any role models? What do you like about them or what do you feel you would like to emulate from their behavior?

For me, my role models were just regular people. Once was with a substitute teacher and the other was a professor on campus. Both times I recall clearly and although the interactions only lasted for a few moments, I cherish them dearly.

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Fun Introductions (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by OutsideBoxYouMustThink@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety

One of them is me.

More comics: https://workchronicles.substack.com/

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😶‍🌫️ (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 3 months ago by underscores@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/socialanxiety
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Posts something (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 5 months ago by emberinmoss@sh.itjust.works to c/socialanxiety

Has a small panic attack. Runs away forever. Repeat cycle in three days.

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submitted 8 months ago by mo_lave@reddthat.com to c/socialanxiety
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I'm fun at parties (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 9 months ago by Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works to c/socialanxiety
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submitted 10 months ago by tilefan@lemm.ee to c/socialanxiety

I don't take it very often because I don't want an addiction sneaking up on me, but it certainly makes crowds more manageable. almost enjoyable

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submitted 1 year ago by tilefan@lemm.ee to c/socialanxiety

woke up in a cold sweat this morning because I had to make an important business call this afternoon. spent about an hour using my coping mechanisms to talk myself out of it, but eventually had to take my valium

just finished the call, it went extremely well. not only did I make the sale, but there was like 40 minutes of rapport building.

is this what normal people feel like all the time?

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Some personal examples that come to mind are:

  • Being late for work because I heard the people in the apartment next to me leave and I waited five minutes so I wouldn't have to share the elevator

  • Cleaning my house for two hours before strategically placing items I can talk about just so I can have a friend of multiple years over and after they left replaying things I said to make sure I didn't say anything embarrassing

  • Not being able to look my Tinder date in the eyes even though we've been talking for a month and we had planned to have relations that evening

  • Spending $200 on a sweater at a craft market because I worked up the courage to ask the price and couldn't bring myself to say no thanks

  • Forgetting something I needed at a store and just leaving because I didn't want to face the cashier

They're all things that are silly in hindsight that I later realised the average person likely wouldn't have done. I know no one would have really cared in these situations.

Just curious what stories people have.

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Anyone knows this sentence? I had a lot of people saying that when I was younger. I also knew alcohol would do magic to my anxiety.

By now I've learned that it doesn't need alcohol to have people actually liking you.

I mean. I'm still anxiety-me. But surrounding myself with people who like me.

And right now to feels useless to write this, like it doesn't have a point. Excuse me..

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submitted 2 years ago by LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety
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submitted 2 years ago by Skull@lemmy.ca to c/socialanxiety

I hope your day is going well, and aren't too stressed 🤗.. ideally not stressed at all, but that would be a dream.

I haven't seen posts in this group in a hot minute and thought I'd add a small contribution to it.

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Option #3: Don't go (i.postimg.cc)
submitted 2 years ago by ickplant@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety
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submitted 2 years ago by i_am_not_a_robot@feddit.uk to c/socialanxiety

Source: https://introvertdoodles.com/comic/how-anxious-are-you/

Marzi is ace and has some books available on Amazon!

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submitted 2 years ago by HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone to c/socialanxiety

This is the third draft of this post, as well.

I guess I might belong, eheh.

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submitted 2 years ago by SorryforSmelling to c/socialanxiety

Heyyy, I am so sorry for missing two full weeks, and barely beeing online. Tl;dr: had a bad depressive episode. Yet i still managed to read all new posts and comments in the meantime. i apprechiate all you people very much, even when socialising can be impossible. Love to you all!

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No winning (i.postimg.cc)
submitted 2 years ago by ickplant@lemmy.world to c/socialanxiety
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I recently started using breathing exercises for the first time in a few years when I'm feeling anxious, and they've been helping a lot. I hadn't quite realized how big of a difference actually going by time could make as opposed to just generally trying to slow my breathing - if you've never tried it I'd highly recommend it.

I'm having trouble finding the pattern(s) that work best, though. It seems to vary so much; one day one will feel claustrophobically slow and another day it's anxiety-inducingly fast, kinda defeating the purpose. But I don't want to abandon timing it altogether when my gut is apparently pretty bad at figuring out what is the right pace.

Maybe I'm just overthinking this, but I'd love to hear your opinions and experiences. Also, do you use any other physical strategies, like belly breathing?

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submitted 2 years ago by SorryforSmelling to c/socialanxiety
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submitted 2 years ago by SorryforSmelling to c/socialanxiety

Hey sorry for the delay. i had no acces to a computer, and the app doesnt give me the ability to pin posts. Have a nice week!

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submitted 2 years ago by Chickerino@feddit.nl to c/socialanxiety

that's all

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Socialanxiety

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A safe space for people to discuss their experiences, feelings and thoughts on social anxiety and socialphobia.

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