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y'all
Y'all doesn't get enough love. It is gender neutral and extremely versatile.
I agree. It's the plural of "you" that should be the official standard, since it disambiguates "you." It can even be broadened to include larger groups via "all y'all," as in, not just y'all in talking to, but all y'all in the house.
It can replace "guys", but not "man," though.
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A lot of people use “folks” for plural.
I feel like “guys” is fairly un-gendered but people disagree with me. Personally, I haven’t used the word “guys” to refer to anything male in what seems like forever.
“Bud” and “fella” are good singulars.
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A wise man once said, "I'm a dude, he's a dudes, she's a dude. We're all dudes. Hey!"
Strange though, that when you ask most men how many dudes they've slept with suddenly, she's not a dude...
There's a very big difference between "dude", referring to someone you're talking to, and "a dude", referring to someone you were talking about.
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I’m AFAB enby, saying “you guys” and calling me “dude” is fine. Those to me aren’t gendered anymore. The people who get offended at general terms like these for groups of people need to touch grass.
But if you’re dead set on it, embrace y’all lol. Just don’t say it with a southern drawl and you’ll be fine. It’s a fantastic gender neutral term. You can also just train yourself not to add in the “you guys” to the “what’s up” phrase, and maybe just say “what’s up with you?” “What’s up with you all?” Etc.
"Offended" is a bit of a strong word.
Many trans folks are, understandably, bummed out when gendered terms that refer to their AGAB are used to refer to them.
I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to avoid causing that brief moment of dysphoria. That just feels like a thoughtful and kind thing to do.
It’s good that OP means well, but also there are so many of us who do not care and are not affected because we know the speaker is using a generalized term and isn’t (usually) being malicious with it. I call several of my cisgender girl friends “dude” and “bro” and I’ll call men “girl” as a joke sometimes (like, girl what are you doing?). Many of these terms simply have completely lost their original gendered meaning in a lot of contexts.
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Try the following for groups:
Hey folks, how's it going?
Listen up assholes!
Greetings, gumshoes
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"Foolish mortals" is my go-to gender neutral form of address
What's up, cunts
Works best if they're your friends and also you're in Australia
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Everypony.
An oft overlooked option that leaves no one indifferent.
Mortals
Meatbags?
I find "y'all" works pretty well, so does "folks" or even better "Fellow Workers."
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'round here "guys" has become gender neutral. But "folks" is my go-to.
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Fellow kids
Dude.
I'm a dude. He's a dude, She's a dude. We're all dudes.
Trans women sometimes feel uncomfortable when they are called dude, so if you're aiming for maximum comfort of people, dude is not a great choice.
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"Citizens". It has the added benefit of implying that you're an authority figure and they're in trouble.
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Guys is always fine as it refers to followers of Guy Faulks and pretty much anyone has probably considered blowing up parliament at some point.
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I use "folks" a lot. "Howdy folks." I am also a Tarheel so I can get away with y'all. And howdy.
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"My fellow great ape"
In the words of Kel Mitchell:
I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, 'cause we're all dudes.
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Folks or Everyone tend to be my go to.
Cheese bags.
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