I was raised in a conservative Christian family that belonged to a church denomination branching off of Mormonism - It took (is taking?) years to deconstruct and understand the hate that I participated in and supported.

I strongly recommend watching the movie Jesus Camp to get a better understanding how Christian youth groups/camps can brainwash kids so they grow up to become adults who are so ignorant of the world outside their small Christian community that they know little more than what church authorities tell them. In my case I hated the LGBTQ+ community because hating you was my identity. I was taught to be one of "god's chosen people" preserving the correct way to live. It was often preached that natural disasters were god's way of punishing non-believers and those whose faith was not strong enough. The congregation I attended literally believed that all the natural disasters, pollution, and systemic failings around the world were god's vengeance against gays, liberals, and socialists. - e.g. I attended a sermon where the 2010 BP Deepwater Horizon oil spill was literally and explicitly blamed on Obama's support for gay marriage.

If you were raised in such an insular, dependent, and ignorant community it is most likely you would learn the hate too. When you believe you and your religion are literally the center of the universe (you are the "chosen people" in a supernatural power struggle between good and evil) you too would feel anxious, threatened, pressured and quick to resort to violence.

The conservative Christians I grew up around who hated the LGTBQ+ community were generally emotionally immature. Their personal development, like mine, stunted by the church from an early age. It takes years to unlearn the judgemental conformity, moral superiority, and cognitive dissonance that is so integral to many congregations and denominations today. Faced with the prospect of questioning your core-beliefs, leaving your friends and family behind, and abandoning so much of your identity it's totally understandable, yet horrible, that people will choose to double down on the only beliefs they really understand.

That's why I hated the LGBTQ+ community - Because I was taught that you were the root of so much supernatural evil in the world, but if I were asked "why do you hate gay people" I would have told you "I don't hate gay people, I hate their actions. I just don't like them, it's unnatural". Eventually I realized that people are their actions and you can't hate one without hating the other.

It is just ignorance that's been passed down from previous generations.

I am a heterosexual male and I never understood the hate against the LGBTQ+ community (especially in less woke countries). It seems pointless to hate people for wanting to be who they truly feel they are.

Only one of many reasons of course, but when I was living in a conservative part of the US, I ran into a lot of people whose perception of equality/inequality was very sensitive to "the rules are changing" as opposed to how people are affected by those rules. Since they or people they know have made a lot of sacrifices to conform to societal expectations, it strikes them as deeply unfair when such expectations are not enforced on others. It's the sort kind of reaction you might have when playing a game, and midway through your opponent suddenly invokes a house rule they never told you about. Not only would you be upset about the surprise, but you might worry about getting caught off-guard again in the future or be suspicious that the house rule was made up on the spot to disadvantage you. But life isn't just a game, and we don't get any chances to play again, so, understandably, these people take actual societal changes much more seriously. What they don't seem to focus on as much is whether the original societal expectations are beneficial or not—they may well be aware that society treats some groups badly, but see that as either an ineradicable problem or a necessary evil to avoid pulling the rug out mid-game. As someone with a pretty consequentialist outlook, that meant that these people and I were talking past each other a lot, not only on LGBTQA+ acceptance and rights, but on any issue where society is changing.

Interestingly, for those who have being Christian as an important part of their identity, Jesus actually preaches against this kind of thinking in the parable of the laborers in the vineyard at the start of Matthew 20. I also happen to be Christian (though the kind that wonders how anyone could see the gospels as anything but pro-LGBTQA+), and I have had mild success bringing up this story and just finding some common ground on what "fair" means before getting into more specific topics.

They're brought up with constructed ideas of what masculinity and femininity are. Those ideas become ingrained in their identity. If something challenges that on any level they react negatively. Nearly all people are not 100% heterosexual or homosexual but instead exist on a spectrum. However if you don't want your constructed identity challenged by feelings you might be having that aren't heteronormative you're going to push those feelings away and anybody associated with them. Most of these homophobes probably have at least some non-heteronormative desires or fantasies and so work extra hard to fight against them so society doesn't perceive them as less masculine or less feminine. They would probably be so much happier if they just gave in and explored a bit.

I think that the people who are most vocal in their hate are opening a window into their own internal judgement. They are filled with toxicity that is designed to keep people in line, to serve specific roles (man, especially). It spills outward, but it works inward too.

If you believe in the importance of your Masculine Role™️, in the rigidity of it - and it's the most important part of these people's identity, everything revolves around it; trucks, guns, gettin' er done, etc. - when you see people who reject your entire concept, its a personal attack. It calls into question the validity of their own identity, which they didn't get to choose anyway - that was the point. Their minds are forced to contend with the reality of a diversity of gender/sexual expression - it either softens or hardens their hearts.

Imagine being a manly man in manly ville who has defined their entire life around manliness. But hating it the entire time. The burden of a role you didn't make for yourself. Accepting that you could have done different, been different, is hard, and their community makes it impossible.

Obviously the right thing to do is to soften on traditional roles, for their own sake and others, and to reject pressure from everyone they know even if it means being alone. It's hard to do.

Mostly fear born from ignorance. It is getting better tough, and it will get even better

i think a lot of it is projecting jealousy, fear, and most of the time just spouting ignorance passed down from generation to generation :/

I think it's probably several different reasons but I think a big one is the fear of the unknown. Basically they hate us because we're different, I think it'll be important to continue normalizing LGBTQIA+ things. I think the major backlash happening now is because it's being more normalized, these people are so set in their ways and are so terrified of change that they're letting their hatred control them. It's the whole boomer mentality of "this thing is different from when I grew up, therefore I hate it."/"I'm too old and therefore refuse to learn/change" (and yes I realize not all bigots are boomers, but you don't have to be a boomer to act like one)

Considering, no one cared about gay men or women in history until Christian based religion dominated (see Greece, Rome, etc.) I blame religion. A lot of people aren't going to read the bible, but cherry-pick it to suit their needs. Removing pedos (the cherry-picked same sex attracted ones) from the equation (as there were a lot, especially with Spartans and Romans), and there are still LGBT people, of age.

The same bible that says gay people should be killed also says to love thy neighbor (ironic, as I am cherry-picking right now). I feel as if the only reason LGBT people are in the bible is someone had an agenda against someone they opposed, and decided to slander based on something like who they chose to slept with.

In addition to what everyone else said, conservatives have been using queer people as a wedge issue since the lavender scare. This didn't create the initial hatred, but it definitely amplified it.

In my case, it was simply a mixture of blind ignorance and the desire to fit in. As I grew up in a very conservative area of the U.S. Midwest, my entire adult family and most of my peers held bigoted views, and thus so did I. The environment of my upbringing was one of hate and ignorance, so it's no surprise I would find myself hateful and ignorant as well. Of course, I've since left these views behind and realized I'm actually bisexual, but I could've easily fallen further down the alt-right pipeline.

I'm inclined to think that the primary reason is how sexually repressed the average person is.

I'm thinking of it this way:

The average person hides their kinks, and normalizes the utter segregation of sexuality from life in general in rhetoric. Obviously life isn't separate from sexuality, therefore any display of mainstream sexuality from which there's no hiding, is deemed non-sexual. Hyper-sexualized tv shows, sexualization of young people, cishet couples walking hand in hand or even kissing publicly are ignored to a large degree. Of course there are puritans out there but we're talking about the average person here.

When all this contradicting behavior pushes the cognitive dissonance to unbearable degrees, the average person looks for a target to lash out, to blame for the stress their own sexual repression creates within them.

As a result, the sexually repressed average person can't see, hear or think about any aspect of the lgbtq+ community without their own sexual urges boiling over like an overfilled pot of soup. They think the difference between themselves and the openly out members of the lgbtq+ community is that the average person knows how to keep their kinks, fetishes and sexuality to themselves, while the lgbtq+ community makes a culture out of showing off theirs.

They literally can't understand being lgbtq+ isn't a kink or a fetish, nor is it solely based on sexual expression, because their own sexual expression is normalized into everyday culture for everyone to see 24/7, thus a gay couple walking their kid to school in the morning is no different to them than themselves getting a footjob on the sidewalk next to the school.

At least this is my two cents.

Human psychology looks for out groups to demonize. We humans get psychological benefits from doing this. It helps us cope, it helps us bond with our in groups. As pathetic as that may be.

Right now, people are more scared for the future than they have been in generations. We are dealing with utterly unprecedented threats that have the capacity to actually end our current society. Fascism promises we can go back to a Better Time. It encourages people to blame all the fear and anger they feel on scapegoats. Charismatic personalities abuse and amplify these human tendencies for power. The seeds are there in all of us, waiting for the right conditions for hate to grow. It's like the man says, you're a whole different person when you're scared.

I think that the progress of the last 40 years has been made by showing people that homosexuals are not a separate group that can meaningfully be targeted but rather represents a cross section of every single community on Earth. It's harder and harder to think of them as other. But unfortunately, that fight has to be fought over and over for every other marginalized group under our umbrella.

I'm not in the community and I don't get it either. Why can't people just let other people be themselves (if they don't hurt anyone of course and aren't mean and such)? I'm so sorry that you feel this way because you shouldn't have to for just being you. I do my best and point people out if they use hateful language and why that's hurtful to someone.

I thin that, besides all of the other comments here, there’s also a misconception regarding LGBTQ along phobes. Phobes have negative ideas in their head when they hear LGBTQ, and these ideas were born from misunderstanding. When you actually start explaining concepts as gender dysphoria for example to phobes, there is a pretty big chance they will become allies

I'm not in the community. I don't hate you. I think there's extremists in all communities. So extremists in your community will piss off extremists in another community. And vice versa. I don't know you personally. But, I'd say, if you're a decent human, you'll get along with most people. Except the extremists :-)

I just saw this on my feed. I'm not LGBTQ+ (nor subscribed here) but just wanted to drop in and say many of us don't hate you. I personally have some friends from your community and love hanging out with them. Keep your chin up.

I think it might have something to do with changing social standards. There is always a group of people who are afraid of any kind of change - in particular, change that makes them feel like their rights are being taken away. For example, the right to pick on a minority. (I'm not saying that it ever actually way "their right" btw; it's just that I think that they perceived it as such.) It used to be a lot easier to pick on minorities, like the LGBT+ community, and find resonance with other people. Nowadays however, there's a good chance something like a sexist joke will hit a brick wall (which, imo, is a good thing). The feeling of social exclusion is one of the most terrifying feeling a human can have, which means that your mind will seek for any way to "address" this issue. But of course, you don't look at yourself (You where able to do it in the past, so why shouldn't you be able now?), you look for some external reason for your problems. And the "obvious" target in this case is, the LGBT+ community.

Note: This is just my own interpretation, the interpretation of a straight male bystander, so it might be entirely wrong. In addition, I don't believe this is the whole picture, or even anywhere close to it. "Hate" is an incredibly complicated and nuanced topic, and there's no way I could get it fully right.

Warning straight guy!

I personally don't care who is he/she/it or something else (I don't want to sound careless), I have few gay friends. And lots of people who I know have it same.

What I see is that lately there poped up some political parties that have been fueling this hatered for some time. Fortunately our judicial system is solid and hate crimes and open hatered on social media... are dealt with.

For information one of these parties was suing because in one article someone branded them as Fascist. Ruling was: "Parti" has all of the signs of fascism, so this is not case of defamation"

I don't have anything useful to say other than: I am a cis person who doesn't despise anything about the LGBT community. Of course a lot of the stuff is not my taste, but for me you are mainly people. And I like people...
Be yourself, be proud of yourself and what you've acomplished and coming out is an acomplishment

I don't get what the fuck these dumb religios people have against the community or queer people in general, I don't get what politicians have against you eigher... I guess because you are different and a minority they think they can belittle you for their own good while proudle swinging the american flag or something...

@Bicyclejohn at first my position as a Muslim was that frankly, I don't care. I'm in the west, and even though my religion strongly condemns the act (but having thoughts are not sinful, rather a test as the blind is tested, the poor is tested, etc. and your reward is in the afterlife for abstaining or, if failing to abstain, to repent constantly from sin), I know I can't reasonably expect my country to conform to my own beliefs.

That being said, it did not really end at "oh yeah two men or two women can marry now". It's a cult-like ideology with a month long celebration. The flags are thrown up on the White House in a really strange and eerie way to me. It's very prevalent among children even in elementary school. All this pronoun stuff, while I don't typically care, is being presented to children under the age of 10. This is concerning to me. A lot of the so-called science is clearly funded and published by those with agendas. And even if it isn't, we can't say the long term effects of transitioning are positive because we only have a few years of data anyway, and mostly in adults not minors.

So that's why I have become more hateful. It is not just "I can marry a man/woman now". It is a powerful, cult-like ideology that itself focuses extremely on sex and sexual acts. I just cannot agree with this. There are no parades for heterosexual people. There are no public displays of lewd acts. There are no flags thrown up on the White House. You have the rights you wanted but for some reason the ideology only grows more feverish with time. Why? What is going on?

I see it and to me it is comparable to the description of the people of Lot in the Qur'an. They were also feverish. They were extreme in their actions and in fact forced people into it. The traveler who made the mistake of stopping in their town was not left to his own devices. I'm not saying this is how the LGBT is now, but that's the path I see it taking. And when Lot called them towards better behavior, they called for his "cancellation":

وَمَا كَانَ جَوَابَ قَوۡمِهِۦۤ إِلَّاۤ أَن قَالُوۤا۟ أَخۡرِجُوهُم مِّن قَرۡیَتِكُمۡۖ إِنَّهُمۡ أُنَاسࣱ یَتَطَهَّرُونَ﴿ ٨٢ ﴾

• Sahih International:
But the answer of his people was only that they said, "Evict them from your city! Indeed, they are men who keep themselves pure."

Al-A'raf, Ayah 82

They wanted him ostracized and removed from society. Why? He was a lone man calling out this action. It wasn't an organized effort to actively hunt down or execute these people. He merely said:

إِنَّكُمۡ لَتَأۡتُونَ ٱلرِّجَالَ شَهۡوَةࣰ مِّن دُونِ ٱلنِّسَاۤءِۚ بَلۡ أَنتُمۡ قَوۡمࣱ مُّسۡرِفُونَ﴿ ٨١ ﴾

• Sahih International:
Indeed, you approach men with desire, instead of women. Rather, you are a transgressing people."

Al-A'raf, Ayah 81

So yeah. That's why I've become more hateful. It didn't stop at "we just want to get married". I don't care what people do in the privacy of their own home. The problem is it isn't just the home now. It's media, schools, politicians, the White House, and more.

cuz u suk lmao