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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SoleInvictus@lemmy.world to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

I'm a long time Lemmy lurker and occasional Redditor. Since the Reddit influx, I've watched the frequency of shitty Reddit-type behavior, e.g., combative comments, trolling, and unnecessary rudeness, just sky rocket.

I'm happy to have more content on Lemmy, but I wish the bad actors and assholes would have stayed on Reddit.

Yes, I realize the irony of posting this on a new community that's basically a Reddit transplant.

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[-] TechieDamien@lemmy.ml 49 points 1 year ago

I disagree. I was here before the migration and I really wanted to like it. However, there simply wasnt enough content and most threads were barren. Now, there are full deep discussions everywhere about loads of different topics. I've come back to a far better product than I previously experienced, despite a few more bad actors.

[-] RocksForBrains@lemm.ee 29 points 1 year ago

Idk why you're swinging for low hanging fruit. Your 10 day old account speaks to a Reddit migrant as well.

Ironic.

[-] Ryumast3r@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Honestly anyone with an account younger than lemmy.world I'd easily count as a reddit migrant.

Of course, federation makes it hard to figure out exactly when they first created an account anywhere, especially since lemmy.world has only existed since like June 2.

[-] irkli@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

BUT I WUZ HERE WHEN IT WASNT EVEN COOL

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[-] IZanderI@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago
[-] PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

You forgot the /s.

[-] irkli@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago

It's not reddit, it's body count. I used bbs's in the late 70s, fidonet in the 80s/90s, internet when gopher was new, and it's all sweetness and love when the crowd is small and gets "worse" when more people show up.

That's in quotes because it's not worse, it's more. Aside from trolls who require the anonymity etc, assholes are just people you don't like. Their friends like them.

It's why scaling is so important and to have tools to keep communities small and manageable.

Facebook's moderating one billion people is a stupid made up problem that will be solved by it dying of bloat.

[-] gaybear@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

This 100%. I have read forums from back the 2000s and people still flame as if it was a Reddit thread, thrilling.

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[-] BananaTrifleViolin@kbin.social 22 points 1 year ago

Unfortunately I think this just reflects human nature. The more people you have the more people you have at the fringes who are aggressive, or trolling or even just selfish or insensitive.

Also it's easy to come across rude when posting in text - anyone who works with colleagues via email will find the same problem of one meaning being intended but a different meanong (such as tone) being read by the recipient.

When you have a small community your names become familiar and there is something personal about the interactions. Once the you have a huge community people become anonymous and that allows bad behaviour to flourish. I barely ever saw a name twice on reddit and that's happening here too. I got to the point on reddit where I'd post a comment but I wouldn't ever read the replies as I was fed up with dealing with the negativity.

My hope for the fediverse is that there will be multiple versions of the same communities so that we can have closer knit versions of communities as alternatives to the 1m+ chaotic versions. Small communities are where you can achieve decency and kindness more consistently.

[-] Laete@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Also I assume that unfriendly behavior, and atmosphere it creates, discourage unaggressive or less typical posters from participating in conversations. So those insensitive people will end up being overpresented in the comment section.

[-] aerir@lemmy.aerir.xyz 18 points 1 year ago

That is expected isn't it? Both sites are driven by people, and people can be an assholes. Doubt we can do too much to drive them out.

[-] time_example@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 year ago

Seeing the low-quality comments starting to appear is disappointing.

[-] PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Always downvote all bad content - that's why the arrow exists.

[-] pragma@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

I think this is a symptom of having a scoring system for comments. If you gamify your social interactions, people will try to play the game (meaning low quality comments, dad jokes, or anything that will grant them easy votes) instead of having actual discourse.

[-] OpenStars@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

That ignores the effect of bad actors who will do it regardless though. There may actually be something to using such a score, at least as a qualitative if not quantitative measurement of trustworthiness, like for anyone with a magazine-specific karma score in the negative and spread out over at least ten comments, start hiding their comments by default (like still visible but you have to click to expand now), and allow the mods to decide what their communities rules will be.

Irl it's like: punch me in the face once, twice, three times, and eventually ten times, and maybe one day I'll finally start to think about considering making a plan of action to help you realize that there may be consequences... one day! (maybe) That could help so that if a troll is popular in one place but always shits outside of where they live, those receiving the raw end of that deal could have a way to automatically deal with it?

On second thought though, it's probably too easily gamified, especially by alts created for explicitly that purpose, like it's not that hard to make 10 accounts. But aside from minor UI concerns, something like that could actually change whether/how often someone feels welcomed to go visit a site.

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[-] iNeedScissors67@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

I came across one earlier that was about as low quality as it gets. It was a thread about some big car accident and the only reply was "/c/fuckcars". No commentary on the actual article, no attempt at starting any actual discussion, just a pithy one liner that serves no purpose other than grabbing some upvotes and killing any chance of discussion. I still haven't seen TOO much of that yet but I find it weird that someone would make the effort to come to the fedi just to do the same low effort shit they were doing on Reddit. It's disappointing but at the same time, my short time on the fedi has been filled with far more actual conversation than most of my time on Reddit was.

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[-] Nima@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Seeing as your account is the same age as mine, it seems you're a reddit refugee as well.

All we can do is behave well and try not to be a jerk. And not try and invite the same type of reddit behavior to lemmy.

[-] Rabbithole@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago

I came over in the reddit migration.

I have to admit, the thought definitely occurred to me when I first joined and had a look around, that the people that were already here before would be getting swarmed by masses of redditors that may well not have the same "site-culture" as the people who were here first. I'm actually surprised that this is the first post that I've seen complaining about it.

I mean it, I was legitimately expecting a ton of pushback from the existing fedi community over this, and was really surprised when it never seemed to materialize.

For my own experiences of being here (I'm on kbin), this place has been really good-natured, with a better level of well intentioned discussion than what a lot of reddit had, so it's been a really nice experience so far. What I don't have though, is any experience of what it was like before we all invaded en-mass, so I have nothing to contrast it with. I can totally see how someone wouldn't be happy with what's happened though, the migration has to have changed the space a lot for everyone that was here before.

One thing about my personal experience of how it is here though is that when I first joined I tried to do the thing that you first do with a reddit account, you know, where you immediately un-subscribe from all default subreddits and only join things you're actually interested in (so, niche subs, etc). Found out that it isn't quite how it works, but that the subscribed feed is pretty much exactly that but baked-in as standard. I've then spent almost my whole time on the subscribed feed since (unless actively looking for new stuff).

So the quality that I've experienced here is probably more down to my personal selection of subscribed communities rather than a more holistic view of the platform as a whole. There's the caveat to everything I just said, I guess.

So yeah, I'm kinda sorry that this happened to you, and I'd also prefer if those people (I'm referring to the bad-actors and arsehole's side of things) would have just stayed where they were too, but I'm not sure what to do about it other than just blocking/unsubscribing to the communities in question, or blocking the individual accounts of bad actors. I doubt that the second is even remotely scalable though if the userbase gets significantly larger.

[-] maegul@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

The lack of pushback was because lemmy hadn’t really formed its own discrete culture and community. There just weren’t enough people for that to happen. Lemmygrad is probably the only exception, as they formed a community and have been around for a while. And yea, they’re looking at the rest of lemmy as a kind of Reddit hellacape now. Literally they post memes about people just shutting all over the place. And, they’re not entirely wrong, as you hint at.

It’s a little bit of a shame. As arguably it was necessary. But also, it’s arguably been too rushed. Building up communities and spaces is probably best down more slowly and organically. Lemmy probably went through two steps of growth in one short period. Mastodon by comparison had already had migration events prior to 2022 that had built up site-culture, though that has been somewhat overrun by some Twitter culture, but I think a cultural fusion is happening. Many parts of lemmy however are now basically subsets of Reddit culture. Not bad but not great.

Interestingly, the dynamics between tech and culture are manifesting, where the tech and and interface differences between Reddit and Lemmy (eg no karma) are forcing cultural changes, as is the federation aspect.

[-] Lols@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

lemmygrads problems with the fediverse are not with combative comments, trolling and unnecessary rudeness, they gleefully partake in each

lemmygrads problems with the fediverse is liberals doing it too

[-] Andreas@feddit.dk 6 points 1 year ago

I discovered Lemmy around 2019 or 2020 and loved the concept but was put off by the density of commies, so I didn't create an account and participate but I would check the site around once a year to see if the community had taken off yet.

2020: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2021: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2022: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
2023: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet?

YES!

And I am so glad to never have to see the depressing and miserable "culture" that was Lemmy from 2019 to mid-2023 again.

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[-] LillianVS@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

This is something we as mods for communities can combat. It's a rule I enforce across my communities, posters who engage in hostility and attack people have their comments removed. Simple as.

People can discuss things, that's fine but the second conversations devolve into personal attacks that is not okay.

We have the power to decide how we want the communities we have to grow and what behaviour we want to discourage. Sometimes people just need a little push in the right direction.

We can also all do our parts without mod intervention by being just decent and not engaging in the same toxic behaviour. You can also report comments to mods. It really helps us out to get reports in for comments/posts that break the rule as we may not always see it due to our instances etc...

[-] Innocent_Bystander@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

As one of those redditors, I take offense to that.

And yet, I totally agree.

[-] ohlaph@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Former redditor also checking in, side eyeing my own existence.

[-] graphite@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Reddit -> Lemmy transplants are circlejerking about how evil Spez is, how Reddit is "doomed", or how much they hate people like Musk.

[-] SoleInvictus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Oh my God, yes. It's like hanging out with thousands of recent divorcees. They just. Won't. Shut up.

It'll be interesting to see how this progresses but I'm hoping the asshole fraction gets bored and leaves. We've always had assholes and trolls but not like this. I've been just calling the assholes on their shit, hopefully it helps drive them out.

[-] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think that it'll get better over time, for structural reasons: since Reddit is a big instance with lots of users and only a few admins, the admins give no fucks on how you behave there. (And if you're banned by a mod, you create another username and problem solved.) Here however individual users are more precious for their instances' admins, so admins have more reasons to keep their instances clean of people likely to piss off other people. And, even if they don't, I predict that instances with notoriously rude individuals will get defederated. The net result is that those users will have low visibility for other users.

What concerns me the most is not combative, trolling, and unnecessary rude users. It's the stupid - users who are able to reason but actively avoid it. It's the context illiterates, the assumers, the false dichotomisers, the "I dun unrurrstand" [with either an implicit "I demand to be spoonfed as per my divine right", or an "I disagree but I'd rather pretend that I'm a stupid than outright say it"] and the likes. People tend to pat those users on their heads and talk about esoteric stuff like "intentions", but I don't think that they should be socially accepted here, as they drive the dialogue level down and make the place less fun for other users.

[-] OpenStars@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

It might be different if there was noplace else for them to go. But why does EVERY place on the internet - Reddit, Twitter, Facebook/Threads - all have to cater to it? Can't there be just ONE place where we hold ourselves to a higher standard? Maybe this means we'll see fewer posts / comments / "activity" - but is that a bad thing, necessarily?

Still, as I learned how to drive, I realized something: if you leave a space somewhere, someone will fill it. If we want to build something different, it will require expended effort to make that happen.

[-] Andreas@feddit.dk 3 points 1 year ago

Federated networks are, by design, not able to be constrained by one set of rules and standards. The place you are looking for is Tildes, a centralized, invite-only, text-only website whose selling point is "high quality discussions" and very harsh moderation against anything that does not fit their standard of "high quality".

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[-] crowsby@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

I suspect part of it may be due to the type of content we're seeing. It feels like low-effort meme and shitpost communities are dominating the feeds, and that's going to attract a certain low-effort audience. I've been blocking them liberally but they just keep coming.

[-] shotgun_crab@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That's how humans in general work. Bad actors and assholes are everywhere (specially in the internet), not just Reddit.

[-] Candelestine@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

It was necessary, unfortunately. Unless you just wanted Lemmy to stay this quaint little corner instead of being a significant player in helping the Fediverse reach its real potential out there.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The thing with the combative comments/rudeness, in my experience, mostly looks like someone being direct and then a bunch of readers being offended by the bluntness. Whether it was on Reddit, here, or forums and Usenet back in the day. So many problems with "tone" in text is caused simply by the reader reading it in a combative tone that the writer never intended.

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[-] Ibaudia@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

The best thing about decentralized networks is that you can just go to another instance if you feel like this. You're not forced to interact with any communities that you're not a fan of. Things change with time, of course, but that doesn't mean you have to change your tastes.

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