Well, you could pause until you know that you are ready to pay attention.
Which means forgetting that you had it paused and maybe noticing 3 hours later.
It stuns me that I was so unaware I had ADHD for so long when shit like that is so relatable.
The problem is that adhd symptoms are relatable to everyone.
But if your finding yourself constantly relating to such things, then it might be a good indicator to look into things more or talk to a good therapist
Absolutely. It's just important to point out that the symptoms of adhd are things that everyone experiences. It becomes a disorder with frequency, being unable to control it, and it significantly negatively impacting your life.
Not too different from OCD in that aspect.
Phone addiction symptoms are high frequency, too though
What about an adult who didn't manage to complete higher education due to suspected ADHD but now bumbles through life somewhat respectably and makes good money so really those relatively mild "relatable" symptoms can't be said to have a "significant negative impact"?
...... asking for a friend....
(for real tho, I'm pretty positive that if that friend got diagnosed the only thing to come out of that would be "be more disciplined" which, yeah, my friend doesn't need a therapist to tell them that)
so really those relatively mild "relatable" symptoms can't be said to have a "significant negative impact"?
A "negative impact" can and is as simple as "causes undue stress"
For example, the OP meme happens to me multiple times a day, daily. I notice it and it actively stresses me out and annoys me and worsens my mood when it happens. Sure, it's not making me kill myself or ruining my work or life prospects, but it's a low level sign for sure. It's literally one of the big things my psych focused on during the diagnosis process
Another example is OCD, it can cause stress and anxiety without the person being unable to function, or even do quite well in work and life.
Could be. The only problem I see here is that it seems to imply everyone needs to finish higher education. And if they aren't able to that, something is wrong with them.
Perhaps we should accept that not everyone can do higher education and focus on making it so, that it doesn't matter.
Also, if it doesn't affect all aspects of life (hobby, friends/family, job, school) it's not ADHD.
Excuse me, but are you me?
“Everyone pees but when you pee 60 times a day you go see a doctor”
"YouR JuST so LazY!" points to PILES of work "BUT YOU NEVER FINISH, JUST STOP HAVING THAT BRAIN"
My wife and I (both adhd) have a running joke where when one of us asks the other if they need anything, we always respond with, "a new brain."
Warning for Rule 1.
It's relatable stuff like this that helped me realize I had ADHD. Now I just need to find some clever coping skills that don't involve too many drugs.
Get ready to unpause, but it has disconnected you due to inactivity. You shrug and go back to phone
until you know that you are ready to pay attention.
But that requires me to pay attention to my level of attention.
I often put YouTube videos on 2x. Takes all the attention without getting boring and it also saves time.
The other day while practicing piano I played white noise on my headphones so that I could barely hear the piano. It took all my attention to hear myself and I didn't forget what I was playing halfway through the piece.
It doesn't help that in some of these youtube videos, especially the tutorial/teaching kind, people seem to like to speak as slowly as humanly possible.
Doesn’t even have to be on the phone. Just watching something, and then just a slightest thought pups up, and I’m gone. 5min later fuck! I missed it again. Sometimes it takes me 2 hours to watch a 30 min show.
I strongly relate to this
There's that expression about people having their head on the clouds, but I just get lost in my own head. I can spend an entire 5 hour flight with nothing but my own thoughts.
I can't watch TV shows when my brain is on to something.
This ~~sub~~ community again! Looks like I need to get diagnosed
I have been feeling like that for 6 months now, any day now
Put your phone away from your reach when watching a show.
I've been giving Netflix bad data for years
This is why I have to put my phone far away from me during shows and movies lol
If I'm not doing something with my hands then I won't be able to tell you what happened in the movie. Even if I was staring unmoving and quiet at the screen the whole time.
Fidget toys. Legitimately, toys for fidgeting children. There are all kinds of designs available. That's how I manage mine. My significant other (who also has ADHD) does the phone thing but none of the problem mitigation and it drives me nuts!
Yeah I get that, I just know if I do it with my phone that I'll end up missing stuff lol. I like to do Rubik's cubes
It gets worse when there was a long lead-up to it and you pretty much have to restart the video from the beginning.
Relatable af
For me it's Google maps and audiobooks/podcasts.
It speaks over what I'm listening to, so I skip back 30 seconds, then it speaks again. I had it happen like 6 times in a row the other day where I was listening to the same 25 sex nds repeatedly because Google wouldn't shut the fuck up.
Exit in 1 mile then turn right. Got it. Now stfu.
1 screen it, or try to be ok missing things.
iPad parenting is coming home to roost.
I wasn't raised by an iPad I grew up playing outside, I still have this issue. It's the adhd in our case, hence why it's posted in the adhd community.
ADHD is not caused by screen time. And it doesn't need to be a second screen, I've done this with crochet projects.
I rewind to far back. Skip to far forward and spoil the scene.
I blame the skip duration. Yt default is 5s, when playing at 2.5x speed (set via an extension) that becomes effectively 2s. It's perfect. If I need more I just press it again.
I have jellyfin set up and (at least on the webbrowser) the default is 30s. Seriously? Why would anyone need 30s skipping? I had the same issue as you before - but only on jellyfin, with YouTube I almost always hit the exact moment I need.
On YouTube desktop site you can use JKL for -10 pause/play +10 or left space right for -5 pause/play +5 respectively. As well as frame by frame with < > keys while paused.
You can ask your family what happened only to find out they weren't watching either.
Totally me!
I will be watching a show, flick through the channels during the commercial break and forget what I was watching.
At least with streaming I can just put on my comfort shows (basically anything that comes on adult swim) and just rewatch them over and over. That way there's still background noise and because I've seen the same episodes a hundred times it doesn't matter if I lose track because I've already seen it a hundred times.
Passive media consumption is dead. It doesn't matter to me if it's the most interesting movie or series - I'd rather be doomscrolling or upvoting shitposts.
I thought this about myself and then I watch some old shit like Seven Samurai and I am sitting up straight eyes wide taking it all in.
But yeah, there's no law against just not liking any of it.
Im literally reading this while watching trailer park boys. Time to rewind lol. That’s the way she goes.
The lighter side of ADHD
