Stop caring about upvotes, you'll live a happier life.

Nope. For whatever reason, I was drowning in upvotes in the other place. But to be honest, I don't even know how many I get here, because thankfully, it's only tallied per post rather than per person/account

i've said this before but because there's a small community vibe across lemmy and kbin it's much easier to be heard and seen. a lot of people are interested in building communities here which drives engagement way up.

Something important to realize is, upvotes attributed to a profile was once designed to place profiles on a trust scale. A person with more upvotes in general would simply, and naturally, be more listened and trust than a person with low or even negative upvotes.

The problem is our brain can easily fall in the trap which has been used by marketing for decades now : the reward circuit.

Thus people prone to make a lot of money abused that, and even raised the problem to an other level with bots and competition. They did so because it creates addiction. And what addiction does create ? Spending money. So you really don’t want profile accumulated upvotes on Lemmy.

Yep everyone here is much kinder, smarter and better looking

You don't get buried in other peoples' comments as easily here

Enjoy your stay and stop worrying about updoots

No idea. I'm not worried about em. This space feels way more like home now though. Almost like that other place a decade or more ago.

Personally it depends. Back in reddit, my quippy remarks/attempts to be funny seem to get a decent upvote rate, but for more serious comments/questions/discussions, lemmy definitely has more interaction

Not really but I have lost the care about upvote/downvote. Reddit has shown me - that caring for it, is BS.

In one moment you have it and the other moment, it’s gone. Because they can take it away, ban you etc.

I would even prefer it if there was an option to disable the visibility of the upvote/downvote.

Also your inbox blows up with post/comment replies - and they're not snippy argument-starters either. Feels good man.

It's actually not that different for me because I knew how to get points even in a huge thread; but I don't want upvotes, I just want to talk and also don't want a question to be downvoted and buried without being answered.

One upvote means at least one person appreciates you. More than that, there are no karmas or anything. You can use the votes to see the most appreciated comments, though.

I do but I'm not actively trying to piss anyone off here, so I guess that it's deserved?

Not really, but less folk to upvote so understandable.

There's no karma so what's the point. It's a bit of a dopamine chase anyway.

I actually used an extension that hid karma scores.

I hit a few thousand pointers here and there, but mostly just from making appropriately glib remarks on trending topics.

Not even a little bit. I felt like Usher in the early 2000s, just drowning in .... You get the idea.

Something truly meaningful

Less people -> less upvotes ig