Janeway did fight, kill, destroy, intimidate, threaten, battle and overcome many enemies and completely use an authoritarian hand for the love of her life ...

Coffee

If earth, the human race and the federation had stood in her way for a carafe of Columbian coffee, she would have destroyed us all.

I want a “Someone get this woman some goddammed coffee” tattoo. I don’t care that I’m a cis male. The people who matter will get it.

I mean... Coffee is the love of her life.

On a different note, what surprised me the most afted rewatching voyager's pilot after a good 15 years is that Janeway had a boyfriend/husband/partner. I mean he was mentioned in at least another episode during 1st season but I'm pretty sure he has been forgotten by then

If we are doing the whole strong female characters BS I present you Kira Nerys.

Fought a genocidal occupation all her youth
Became one of the leading figures in a massive space station orbiting her world
Fought the dominion
Placed aside her hatred for the Cardassians
Matured and grew to be a wise woman

Janeway was more upset about losing her dog than her husband. And I feel that.

Kathy just programs up a holographic vibrator then deletes his wife. She's into the kinky shit.

Janeway plays for keeps

"The love of her life"

Ron Weasley? Are you sure?

While I know this is done for humor's sake, I really love this critique.

Similar to the Bechdel Test, this comesvery close to perfectly illustrating the Mako Mori Test:

The requirements of the Mako Mori test are that a film or television show has at least one female character and that this character has an independent plot arc and that the character or her arc does not simply exist to support a male character's plot arc.[2]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mako_Mori_test

I know this is a joke, but I'm not sure we should joke about how different people grieve.

All are valid expressions of grief.