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[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 27 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Shortly before he launched his terror attack, the killer disseminated a manifesto to media. The essay is borderline unreadable: A hodgepodge of discordant economic and social politics, strung together by an intense hatred of women.

Sigh. Sounds like a worrying number of lemmy users.

The solution to this loneliness epidemic and all the downstream dangers that flow from it, is painfully simple: We need to break this internet addiction and get disaffected young men into physical, shared spaces again. The difficult part, the thing we haven’t yet figured out, is how we do that.

Unfortunately third spaces do not coexist well with any modern society, especially capitalism, and are quick becoming extinct. Especially post covid, making friends for anyone is extremely difficult - In a point against the incel philosophy, I'm a cute goth girl with big tits and I struggle to meet any new friends. It's just shockingly isolating to participate in society these days.

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 15 points 1 month ago

Civilian Conservation Corps. FDR era plan to hire young men and build infrastructure.

Invest money in rebuilding powerlines, roads, and bridges. Give people well paying blue collar jobs. Teach teamwork and mutual responsibility

[-] shittydwarf@piefed.ca 9 points 1 month ago

The point about third spaces feels very apt. The absence of these in the modern world has to be connected to this social isolation epidemic we all seem to be experiencing. They are the exact opposite of social media, imagine if we redirected our resources?

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago

God, I wish. At this point I'd settle for them not killing off libraries, but...

[-] shittydwarf@piefed.ca 6 points 1 month ago

This timeline: best we can do it convert libraries and parks into data centers :'(

[-] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 7 points 1 month ago

I'm a hermit who lives in an off grid rural property behind a couple locked gates but I still manage to meet a half dozen new people every week.

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yeah, you know, that actually tracks...

[-] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 4 points 1 month ago

I've never actually tracked a new person I've met but that might be fun now that you mention it.

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Sharks don't seem to mind the radio tags, and they're way more ill-tempered than a UPS guy. I'm sure it'll be fine.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago

Its really tough if you're an attractive girl and can't get any friends. I am a guy but I haven't dated in more than a decade. Also I am a huge voluntary loner. Not an incel or a freak, but it would still feel strange for me if and when I go out on a date, and while I am not a virgin (far from it) if I get it on with another girl after all this time I might as well be.

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'll admit it's not hard for me to get a date since, well, I'm the product dating apps are selling. But it's genuinely hard to meet like... friend friends. Lots of guys who wanna bang and thats fine, but none that I'd wanna play D&D or HD2 with. And no women, even on the "meet platonic friends" apps they just serve men. Honestly, its getting pretty disgusting how they commodify their userbase in a way that reinforces the exact kind of social isolation that fuels the problems with society that spawns incel culture, all to extract "premium memberships" with the promise of oneday going on dates with women who are never even given an opportunity to know they exist.

... I'm ranting but I genuinely just hate this shit.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That's fine. For me I would want to meet girls for a relationship. I really am not looking for quickies and the times when I said I was I was probably lying to myself in times past.

But one thing for me is I refuse to use dating apps or online dating. I did have bad experiences with them ever since I first used them many years ago. I am also someone who is described as terminally online spend most of my time in front of a computer. I am sick of it, I am sick of 'long distance' and 'remote' relationships. I want to meet people face-to-face. It is possible, always hard I know, but I really would rather meet someone directly than indirectly.

Edit: And it sucks that you can't even meet platonic female friends online. That is some bullshit right there.

[-] Damage@feddit.it 4 points 1 month ago

This is brilliant bait, love it

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

... What about it is bait?

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[-] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 month ago

You and me both. Taking away socialization is the root cause of a lot of problems :(

[-] marcela 22 points 1 month ago

Suggesting Jordan Peterson as someone who "earnestly tried to respond to the question".

[-] GrackleBirb@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Jordan "Benzobus" Peterson who undermined mental healthcare (even as a formerly licensed professional!) to tell young disaffected alienated men to "clean their rooms" and then who went on to espouse hack carnivore eating habits and then require benzodiazepine detox (we don't shame people for that but we do shame them for...) going to Russia to receive it (because naturally no one in Canada ever has been treated for this in the entire history of Canadian medicine) and then fleeing to the US because Canada is "too woke" - yeah fuck that asshole and stay in Arizona.

A lot of incel culture stems from online influence, feelings of alienation, and resentment towards women since many of them have learned about sexuality through pornography and expect that women in real life will acquiesce to that - this exposure coupled with manosphere "influencers" telling them that they need to "take back control over women" means many of them not only harbour hatred towards women for perceived or real previous rejection but now think "give me the p now bish I'm a man" is somehow even vaguely normal. They have built communities online around this and here we are.

I won't even touch the layer of low self-esteem theatre that is the "chad" vs "soy boy" nonsense and mewing, chin and face architecture, and other manifestations of body dysmorphia that they blame for their lack of connection to women - funny that they never consider their personality or views on equality but hey - I hope the Therapy Fairy visits all of them and brings a psych to give them the good drugs to move past this nonsense.

[-] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Peterson got hooked on benzos cuz his wife was dying and he couldn't cope. I don't hold that against him. And it is ironic that Peterson himself fell down the alt-right pipeline after claiming to be so well versed in studying authoritarian regimes.

For a loneliness epidemic that stems partly from "feelings of alienation" I'm sure calling them names and belittling them won't drive them further down that road.

[-] GrackleBirb@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I also included a disclaimer around the addiction piece but no, sorry - otherwise he and his ideologies can go get fucked. I play a small violin for someone who thinks their chin is a factor in their ability to attract a mate. Also w.r.t Peterson he has abandoned Canada and decided we don't even have the skills necessary to detox him from his addiction (regardless of its provenance) much less is Canada so disastrous that Arizona is a good place to decamp.

The manosphere is toxic garbage and the first step to treatment is stepping away from the likes of Rogan, Peterson, and the even more insane people who feed off of them. Learn to love and respect women - learn to love and respect yourself. More importantly he speaks of the evils of Marxism and such but then openly embraces grift-based Christianity and the likes of right-wing American politicians.

Seriously? No. Bye Felicia as we say in academic erudite circles when confronted with such nonsense.

[-] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Then keep making the problem you're complaining about worse.

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[-] karlhungus@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago

Highly don't recommend peterson, that grifter is one whole sack of shit.

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[-] tezoatlipoca@mas.to 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

@grte

Gift link.. because: https://www.thestar.com/gift-redeem?t=63cb88b8-903a-45eb-a9cc-bfd70310f87b

(I pay to support the last Canadian-owned major media concern, Torstar)

I find it interesting that in response to a murder spree here we're already looking at how the system failed. In the US they'd be looking for who to pin the blame on. And thoughts and prayers.

[-] Cardinalis@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago
[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 14 points 1 month ago

We still need to find fucking something. I hear tons of calls for gun control but no matter how many rammings or shootings or stabbings or other acts of violence do I hear an attempt at drawing young men (and men in general) away from this shit.

[-] Natanael@slrpnk.net 10 points 1 month ago

It needs a cultural fix. Better role models, better life choices, and ending glorification of this shit.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

But you would be amazed at how many support only gun laws in response and nothing else. Expensive and ineffective AND pulling resources out of other police duties and social services. This is a massive pet peeve of mine.

[-] BonkTheAnnoyed@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 month ago

it's pretty clear from the data that laws restricting firearm access reduce gun violence.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

No. We had this debate before. Look up my comment history. I won't write again.

[-] BonkTheAnnoyed@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago

hah, thanks for the invite to study your works, but yeah, nah

He was using an SKS with stripper clips and no magazine. It has a wooden stock and was probably manufactured in the 70s. They were used in Korea and Vietnam. Patrol cops don't have armor that stops 7.62 either. Gun control was not going to stop this one.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

No light vest can stop ANY centerfire rifle round. The 7.62x39mm is an intermediate round. If you got a Mauser 98 from WW1 and fired 1930s civilian 7.92x57mm (the German Mauser round) it would zip through both sides of the vest and kill anyone behind the cop, too

[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

But the incels are the most intense manifestation of a societywide problem: How do we get lonely young men to log off and rejoin society? How do we convince these men that they are not, as the killer believed, “barred from actualizing your potential?” 

...

The solution to this loneliness epidemic and all the downstream dangers that flow from it, is painfully simple: We need to break this internet addiction and get disaffected young men into physical, shared spaces again. The difficult part, the thing we haven’t yet figured out, is how we do that.

[-] rmrf@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 month ago

No one wants to gamble on a $17 (not including tax or tip) cocktail that a girl might want to talk

I would gamble on a $3, hell even a $5 cocktail if everything else was so relatively affordable. The problem is even fast food corps are speculative RE investors now, and they need you to pay $7 for a shitty combo deal to finance their gambling habits.

I think the root of it is really: existing outside of home is just too expensive.

[-] TimothyOilypants@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago

There are a multitude of social, legal, and economic policy changes that need to happen to make societies more resilient against this kind of culture war shit in the future. For extant populations the only way to de-radicalized them is with education, whether that's voluntary or otherwise.

I'm certainly going to get down voted to oblivion, but the Chinese model is worth looking at. No civilization in human history has provided a higher standard of living to a larger population of individuals.

I like the idea of a true secular humanist end state, but as populations explode, I think we need a system that can function and deliver value at scale first; then we can gradually expand technological and ideological infrastructure for more direct democratic decision making.

It strikes me that finding ways to expand ideological freedom and democratic participation in the Chinese model would be orders of magnitude easier than scaling something like the Nordic model to more than a billion people.

[-] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 month ago

I thought China had a huge population of folks without running water or electricity.

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[-] AGM@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago

I read the shooter's manifesto and didn't see the prevailing hatred as being directed towards women, as suggested in the Star article, but more as directed towards capitalism and who the shooter thought of as elites. There's definitely a distorted view of women in there, and the advocacy for violence is extreme, but the prevailing themes are surprisingly common in what you see in popular discourse: anger about inequality and anger about perceived injustice resulting from inequality. Attacking Mindgeek would have resulted from that ideology not because of hatred for women, but out of hatred of porn and the impacts of porn on men and on young people's relationships and intimacy as, which is the kind of thing you could read about in a broad spectrum of mainstream publications.

It's a weird read. Overall, it made me really sad. The pain and sense of rejection then turned into motivation for violence and calls to kill whole classes of people is quite chilling. It's disturbing. Most disturbing is probably that he wrote about grievances not just as justification for his own individual act of violence but calling for a mass movement that would be violent and, as he put it, "liquidate" whole groups of people as it took power. The grievances he focused on are also not so uncommon to see people feeling/expressing online, which is no doubt part of the danger of the ideology. I wouldn't share it with anyone vulnerable.

I wish that guy had experienced a better childhood or some influences that could have stopped him going down that spiral, but I'm glad he ended up as a lone shooter rather than part of something much bigger that he advocated for. The deaths he caused are already tragic, but a movement sharing that ideology would be a movement of mass murder. It's pretty awful.

[-] RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 month ago

Easy. Just revamp society to provide freedom to all. Then these guys can buy poontang instead of guns.

[-] Warl0k3@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I doubt it. Incels aren't rolling in dough, they have to save up for their sprees. And then, the choice is whether your $1000 will buy you one pretty good evening with a pretty good girl or a cheapo hipoint rifle, which will last the rest of your life...

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[-] HexesofVexes@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Firstly, the star and mirror are both crap papers.

The path to solving the incel issue lies in understanding it arose as a counter-culture.

[-] farmgineer@nord.pub 2 points 1 month ago

I don't think you can have this sort of incel without a sense of entitlement. Addressing entitlement, inequality, and mental health would go a long way, I think

[-] SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

I like how the media is ignoring the fact he used a long gun, for which the registry was eliminated in Alberta under Harper and L'il PP. Quebec has a registry, but it's pointless when incels can just travel from Alberta, USA.

[-] ArmchairAce1944@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The registry was eliminated federally and was so unpopular that only Quebec gave a damn and even then, less than 10 people prosecuted for not registering long guns.

Edit: also the media is not ignoring he used a rifle.

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