Too many guys take it as a swipe at their ability to please their partner when a woman needing a vibrator typically has zero to do with his ability to get her off and everything to do with her ability to get off.
I don't even understand why this is an issue. If I get her off using a vibrator, I'm taking the W. Getting intimidated by a hunk of plastic is weird.
Some dudes are REAL insecure
I look at it like I have less work to do and she enjoys it more.
I'm getting horny reading all the comments about orgasms and getting off.
turns to wife I'm getting horny doomscrolling.
Fun fact, the G in Kenny G is for Gorelick. Though they don’t seem to be related.
I was hoping for a car analogy. I don't understand baseball analogies
If you have a supercharger in your engine, are you mad that it produces more horsepower than you do, or are you just happy to go fast?
Nice ! that's much clearer
WTF is that last name.
Vibrators are fine but when I whip out the premium™️ silicone vagina / asshole combo with a high speed self lubricating vortex cervix and the 36GG BIG TIDDY™️ attachment with Alexa integration I’m ruining he mood 🙄
It's because you aren't using the cum collection tray attachment, it's a game changer trust me
I've dated a couple of girls who can't get off without a vibrator.
It's hard to get mad at that. They've got their thing and it works. If your dick or tongue can't shake at 30 wiggles a second, why complain? So long as we both get off by the end of it, everyone has a good time.
What's the problem?
Equally, I've hooked up with some guys who struggle to get off during sex itself (which may be because the grip one uses while masturbating may be firmer than what one experiences during sex).
Having slept with both women and men, I feel like the pressure to reach orgasm seems like it's bad for everyone. One dude I knew felt super insecure about not getting off, which stemmed from a previous partner taking it personally. It's certainly the case that for some men, it can feel uncomfortable to have sex and not reach orgasm. However, I think that everyone would have a better time if people decoupled satisfaction from orgasm.
If I wanted to be certain that I'd get off, then the use of a vibrator helps a lot. That's not necessarily my goal though; some of the best sex I've ever had didn't result in me reaching orgasm, and I find it frustrating when people don't understand that this is possible (I find this problem more common with men). Of course, that's just personal to me — some people may consider reaching orgasm to be an essential part of "good sex", but that's why good communication is the best skill one can develop for better sex.
While I agree that feeling EMASCULATED by a vibrator is ridiculous, as men are not meant to have vibrating functionality, I think just as many women would feel just as bummed out by it if men did a similar thing. Imagine if a man only got like half of the way there fucking you, then pulled out and was like "oh quick get that super tight fleshlight out so I can cum". Is it really so hard to understand why that might feel bad? Like sure, this fleshlight thing may be tighter than any biological vagina ever could be, but does that really make it not bother you? And even if it doesn't bother you, wouldn't it be nice if that wasn't always necessary?
Because although penises aren't meant to vibrate, and vaginas aren't meant to squeeze like a tight fist, penises ARE "supposed" to please vaginas and vice versa, and if the literal climax of pleasure is not attainable by those means, why are we acting like that's a silly thing to wish was different?
Don't all people, regardless of their own sex or gender, or the gender of their partner, enjoy the idea of bringing their partner to orgasm using their own body and not a device? I have made my girlfriend orgasm manually, orally, penetratively, and with vibrators. They're all fun ways to do it! But if we could only do it with a vibrator, I'd certainly be wishing we could get there other ways too. Is that really so silly? Each method has its own charms. So it seems very insensitive to put down these feelings, and it's also gross to do it with a sports metaphor.
The reality is that it is generally harder for people with a vagina to achieve orgasm than for those with a penis. There are very much evolutionary reasons for that and... let's not talk about that because it is dark as fuck.
In a perfect world? Two (or more) partners will always climax at the same time and everything will be wonderful. But that just isn't reasonable. Maybe its been a while and one partner finishes faster. Maybe its stressful at work and you thought it would work but it just isn't. And maybe you just kind of want the borderline sensory overload that sex toys tend to be capable of.
The reality is that partners should work towards making sure everyone orgasms as much as they want to. If that involves external stimulation with a vibrator while you have vaginal sex? Go for it. If that involves finishing someone off with a handy? Go for it. And so forth.
And if you feel that not being able to make your partner cum the way you want to is a problem? Grow the fuck up. Everyone is different and everyone responds to some stimuli better than others and that can change from week to week. If your partner really likes a vibrator? Awesome, work with that. Integrate it into the fun. Rather than get angry that they don't want you to fingerbang them instead.
I would have no issue with vibrator usage, since that's a tool, not a person. But I don't think I want anyone else dunking on my gf while I make the alley-oop.
From the emasculated male perspective, LeBron is the competitor, not your teammate.
Well putting it like that is kinda belittling. I hear it as “well, sorry, you ain’t no LeBron James.” Is that the joke?
Not the sentiment though. If the woman wants some fun with a vibrator, go to town! Tell me to jump, and I’ll ask how high. Get your partner to have fun, however they want; it is not that complicated.
Sometimes you just don't have time. Like, brother.. Come on.. I'm almost 40. It's not as easy to jackhammer my wife at the perfect angle for 25 straight minutes anymore. It's better for everyone, her included, if she helps rub that shit out and we can both be asleep by 10pm. We have work tomorrow, and you know our daughter's going to come pitter-pattering in here at 4:30am to say she's hungry because she couldn't be fucked to eat more than two beans and a half a chicken tender the night prior.
Alright then. You win comment of the day.
She took a perfectly fine point (toys can be used in sex and enrich the play)...and then formulated in a way that would indeed be off-putting to plenty of guys.
Toys should not become LeBron James of your sex, "earning more points" and leaving partner on the sideline. They should be useful assistants at reaching the peak pleasure.
As long as the point is "my partner can drive me even hornier with this" - it is super healthy and great. But when the toy itself becomes the focus, it's not great. She could masturbate much to the same success.
Comedians often take things to the extreme for comedic effect. If that were the case, the vibrator wouldn't literally be LeBron James, but maybe Karl Mslone, who is made way better with John Stockton (the vib, if it wasn't obvious) setting him up.
Too bad there's no way to know, like a community name or the person's name in the image itself...
Sure, but, while comedy can omit some nuance, this goes straight into the odd direction to begin with.
Eh, I thought it was funny. Most comedy should be assumed to be making a caricature of whatever the target is.
I respect that angle :)
Life is too short not to have a good vibrator, no matter what bits you have or what bits you are attracted to, doesn't matter.
Emasculated goes a bit far but I kinda get it. It doesnt bother me if a sexual encounter starts with a toy, but "let me grab my vibrator so I can finish" is a night that ends with me feeling like I'm not good enough and probably going to bed feeling bad about myself. It's something thats turned a few dates into one night stands for me when I told them how it made me feel and they were dismissive of my feelings
If they can't get off from PIV and want a vibration to get over the edge, that shouldn't affect your feelings about adequacy. Unless you can vibrate your dick at 500rpm, it's not you.
Wonder how she'd feel if instead of her needing a physical aid, it would be him needing a visual aid.
It's like, if Mia Khalifa is on your team ... Are you mad that she scored more points than you?
The nuance I feel you might be overlooking is your so-called visual aid is just someone else's hot bod (as much as it is mostly artificial) and it might signal to your partner that you don't find her physique attractive enough, whereas the use of sex toys or physical aids as you put it would be your partner's way of signaling that her pleasure is not exclusively centered on your penis or its size. Even in phallic shaped toys designed for penetration, there's always something else reputable manufacturers include, be it vibration, texture, shape, simultaneous clitoral stimulation, suction, etc. And none of these are meant to substitute your own physique and the intimacy you bring to the table (or the bed, or the couch, or the shower hehe).
I think the poster below makes a good point that toys designed for men such as fleshlights would be a more apt comparison. And the reverse for the example you provide would be something akin to needing the visual aid of Johnny Sins to get off. If we were to talk about getting off during your little lovemaking session by the chemistry and the fantasy on screen in porn - and both parties were ok with and equally excited by it -, then I'd also find no issue with that (albeit, I do think there are healthier ways to go about).
When it comes to sex, it all eventually comes down to communication and respect. And if your boundaries to feeling comfortable draw a line against using sex toys, then that's you and your partner needs to respect your feelings as well. I just feel like it's a shame if people are missing out, because their own insecurities equate a dildo or a vibrator (or whatever) to a substitute for your penis, your body, and your active role during sexy times, because they definitely are not.
If the guy has trouble reaching orgasm, sure. But in most straight relationships I'm familiar with it tends to go the other way, where the female partner needs more help to finish.
An e-bike wouldn't do much for Jonas Vingegaard, but it can be a game changer for someone who struggles with gentle hills.
in most straight relationships I’m familiar with
So because it doesn't happen to you, it doesn't happen to anyone. Ok.
It's probably a little bit rarer than the other way around, but male anorgasmia exists especially as men get older.
But as usual, male feelings and sexual problems are ridiculed and swept under the rug as unimportant.
That is emphatically not what I said.
I was just sharing my experience since it informed the way I interpreted the joke. I think it makes sense for her to talk about using a vibrator with partners since that's probably something she has experienced.
Casting this joke as 'male feelings being ridiculed' is so strange. She's talking about her own feelings, making light of the expectations her partners have set.
It's not bigoted or mean spirited. The joke is fine.
Its funny cause before i wouldnt have had a problem with it but they way she put it is kinda interesting lol.
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