It’s hilarious to me that the only people in this thread complaining about how hard dating is are people that I have tagged previously for having really heinous opinions.
We ain't dating someone who doesn't think ALL people deserve equal rights in this goddamn country. Go fornicate yourself, you shitweasel, and stop wasting our time.
There ya go! That is the opinion of a lot of women just in case it wasn't clear enough.
I find it incredibly distressing that I can remember a time when people connected with each other, learned about each others values, principles and ideas for themselves and their nation, and they largely adapted to each other, they compromised, they changed views and tried to make things work.
The idea that now we've let the system become so vastly important to us that voting lines determine basic compatibility as humans talking to each other is just tragic. It's an artificial boundary that groups of people have deliberately built around us and we took it on and embraced it.
I would never endorse "giving a violent MAGA redneck a chance" or something, but the reality is more nuanced and there are thousands and thousands of median voters who have no idea what's going on in politics and figure a vote for trump was the same as a vote for bernie was the same as a vote for clinton and so on. It doesn't make them bad it makes them overworked, ignorant, tired or poorly educated.
We would do better at least talking to people more, particularly people we don't agree with so we can learn how to reach them and bring them up to a better place.
edit: a lot of you have never talked to another human in your life and base all your beliefs about the average median voter from youtube shorts that algorithms have fed you to make you angry and want to hate them. Welcome to being a cog.
I could never trust or respect a second-term Trump voter. That says to me quite plainly that person doesn't have any values, principles, or ideas. At least none that would be compatible with mine.
Can't trust the principals of a second term, but you can't trust the basic reasoning of the first term.
He's never been that coy about what he wants to do.
If I'm on a date and she tells me that she voted for Donald Trump, I'm asking for the check and walking the fuck out of there. Certain behaviors are deal breakers.
Yeah but I don't want to be around fascist enablers so no, I won't be compromising.
Are there honestly examples where two people significantly disagreed politically and got along with each other? Life itself is hard enough, I want a teammate not an oppressor.
Identity politics have reached such an extreme that people really are what they vote, and the politics reflect that.
Politics used to be more of “we both want the country to go the same way, we just disagree on how to get there.”
Now one side is “fuck democracy, ostracize the lgbtq people, bring on the brownshirts, fuck science and the climate, too!” With pretty broad support for many of those motives.
It’s not that the system has become important, it’s that the participants have debased the system to the lowest hanging fruit on the asshole tree.
When fascism (oppression) rises, the only things in the middle of the road are yellow lines and dead armadillos. You can either be on one side or the other, staying in the middle you'll just end up dead.
I would wager that many of us were raised with some basic shared ethical values. Things like “if you break it, you repair, replace, or pay for it” or “if you make a mistake, learn from it and do better.”
Someone who repeatedly makes the same mistake without learning from it is a bad person. Voting for a Republican or conservative Democrat once could be called a mistake, but doing it repeatedly, denying the evidence of your eyes and ears and bank account — or worse, repeatedly participating in the widespread harm and oppression, and failing to fight against it after aiding them — makes you a bad person. Being tired, overworked, deceived, stupid, or any other excuse does not grant absolution. Actions have consequences, and therefore actions matter. Making a mess accidentally doesn’t make you a bad person, but failing to recognize a mistake and/or failing to correct it and/or doing it again does.
I would wager that many of us were raised with some basic shared ethical values. Things like “if you break it, you repair, replace, or pay for it” or “if you make a mistake, learn from it and do better.”
You see. That's what I thought but it's become apparent that ~35% of Americans didn't learn these basic values, or if they did - they have chosen to disregard them.
It is no longer a political issue.
We do not agree on a core values level anymore.
I love my dad, but he is a brainwashed, socially inept fool who does whatever the church tells him because they speak for god and they provide him friendship and respect. He thinks I'm lost and has no idea how to approach me. I feel the same about him.
The problem is with the fact that when the discussion about human rights, there is no middle ground. There is no compromise when it comes to human rights. Everyone deserves the same rights and protections, and if someone is trying to argue that people who have more melanin or aren't completely cis-het deserve fewer rights, there is no middle ground to be had.
Thankfully, I'm married and don't have to deal with this bullshit, but if I was dating these days, I would open with asking if they support my right to bodily autonomy and if their answer was anything besides "yes, absolutely", I'd get up and leave. Although, if I had to try to date these days, I'd probably just date women because I'm bi and men can be a coin toss on basic safety.
I'm more than okay with talking but would not advocate for anyone to date a Trump voter. That speaks to a profound lack of judgement / humanity that will eventually rear its head in the relationship. If someone voted for Trump but is then reformed, sure that could be considered om a case by case basis but otherwise it's a hard stop for me and many people. Especially if any of the women in my life were dating a Trump supporter, I would be genuinely concerned for their safety.
I mean, this journalist went out to intentionally date alt-right men:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU5gjuffw3E
I'm sure some of you guys have seen it. I've seen multiple videos and I think the first date was a guy that threatened to kill her before and that women like her would either be killed or be slaves or something like that. She also said that these men hang around left-leaning people and act and talk like them when they're in front of others. So they seem to hide well too.
Why is every girl I meet alt right.
Probably because they are the only single ones because of their red flags.
Just saying "I didn't vote for Trump" isn't enough. You have to follow up that question with "Why?" and their answer will tell you more about their politics than their voting record. For example, there are authoritarians that didn't vote for Trump because he's simply not their particular brand of authoritarian.
Has 'broad political opinion' not always been an important part of one's personality?
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