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submitted 5 days ago by DaGeek247@fedia.io to c/lgbtq_plus

The situation has deteriorated for transgender youth around the country, with many clinics shuttering and state AGs unwilling to enforce law. For adults, some states see higher risk.

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[-] DaGeek247@fedia.io 17 points 5 days ago

Very much not at all happy with the overall state of things, especially since my family and I are still stuck in Texas. May end up fleeing the state if the bathroom ban (which was tied in with the flood recovery) ends up going through.

[-] dandelion 8 points 4 days ago

I recently fled a red state, I recommend doing it in advance because it takes so long to make a move happen.

[-] Neps 1 points 4 days ago

May I ask how you did that?

[-] dandelion 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

there are lots of ways to do it, and I had contingency planning for various levels of emergency

but here's roughly how it goes:

  1. job search, find a job in the place you need to move (this can take months to a year or longer)
  2. once you have signed the job offer, find apartments or rentals online and sign a lease
  3. schedule a moving truck (either rent one to drive yourself, or hire movers to load, drive, and unload)
  4. pack all your stuff or hire someone to pack it
  5. load the furniture and boxes into the truck yourself or hire movers to move your stuff into the moving truck
  6. if you have a car, drive it to the new place so you're there before the moving truck gets there
  7. unload the furniture and boxes from the moving truck into the new rental, or hire movers to do that
  8. unpack the boxes
  9. start the new job
  10. if you were in a house before, clean and sell the house in the old place; if it was a rental, then time everything so you leave your old rental with minimal overlap with the new rental, and clean the old rental and do the walk-through before you leave

You can also sell or donate everything you own and start with nothing to reduce the moving costs and labor.

You can also leave first and become homeless and sleep out of your car, etc. until you get a job or rental.

You can also try to move in with a friend or family if they are in a safe state, and then from there hunt for jobs and housing. If there is someone you can stay with, you could even sell your car and take a bus to get there.

There are many ways to leave, but it's all stressful and expensive, and takes a long time to plan and execute - I would give yourself 6 - 12 months to plan and execute a cross-country or cross-state move (assuming you move from somewhere like Texas to a blue state like Oregon, moving from Indiana to Illinois would be less crazy).

If you have a partner, they also have to look for a job, and moving two careers is more complicated than just one.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

And that's why I fled ohio.

I wish I didn't have to worry about my rights like this

[-] ThatGuy46475@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago

Does the map have a legend

[-] dandelion 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

The legend is hard to read but says:

Anti-Trans Legal Risk

  • (deep clay red) ๐ŸŸฅ worst laws passed
  • (dark orange) ๐ŸŸง High Risk Within 2 Years
  • (light orange) ๐Ÿ”ถ Moderate Risk Within 2 Years
  • (light blue) ๐Ÿฉต Low Risk Within 2 Years
  • (dark blue) ๐Ÿ’™ Safest States with Strong Protections
  • (dark red with diagonal lines) โŒ Do Not Travel
[-] JayJLeas@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

If you scroll down a bit there's a version with a legend

[-] Catpurple 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

It used to in the past, but generally the deeper the reddish brown, all the way up to stripey black, the worse it is for trans people. The deeper the blue, the better. So the pale colors are basically the middle danger/safety ones.

this post was submitted on 29 Aug 2025
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