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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3347155

and what would be the point of lying?

I applied to 2 positions and got one. On both counts I shadowed for a day and was sincere.

Job 1 offered me a position I took.

Why I think the second job rejected me: I was assigned to 2 coworkers who started prying inquisitively about my job experience and expectations. I told them I don't want to go back home with back or leg pain or feeling broken, I don't mind doing my pause after 7 hours of working and not 4 but I actually NEED my pause, one every day, I also told them I don't live to work but the other way round (this is nursing).

Apparently they told management all this because during my interview with the c suite they mentioned what other coworkers think about me.

I still believe if you need a job, please do lie because you need the money. I was sincere this time because a union member told me to clearly state what you want in the beginning, so there are no uncomfortable situations afterwards.

I'm also a terrible actor, so maybe this was for the better?

This makes me value authenticity even more because one of those suites, a woman, used the strategy of faking being close to you (smiles, modulating her voice...) so you believe she actually cares about you so you let your guard down.

even though I got the other job it still stings because I was rejected for being authentic. Am I wrong?

So, in the future, do I keep being authentic or do I feed management BS? Feeding them BS always worked in the past.

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[-] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago

Capitalism is an abusive system that you do not owe honesty.

But you also don't owe it the effort it takes to keep your lies straight.

[-] FireRetardant@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

Yea I'm forklift certified.

[-] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 6 points 11 months ago

Viel gluck, stapelfahrer Klaus!

[-] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 11 points 11 months ago

You sound like someone who believes in being authentic. Don't throw that away.

[-] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 9 points 11 months ago

I'm not sure how good I am at lying during interviews, but I'm a pro at being lied to during interviews.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 9 points 11 months ago

I can't see this as right or wrong either way. Is it morally wrong to survive? Is it morally wrong to be honest if you can survive elsewhere?

[-] Pulptastic@midwest.social 6 points 11 months ago

I choose which parts of my experience I share but I do not fabricate experience I don’t have. The most challenging interview I’ve had was after getting fired from a job that was a poor fit. I was able to spin it as a learning experience and sell my past successes. I did have some doubt in myself at the time but my jobs since then have all been positive experiences which has recovered my self image. Getting fired sucks even when you know it is stupid.

[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 4 points 11 months ago

If I didnt lie and omit the truth 24/7, I would be in prison.

[-] 0_0j@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Lol, even barbers lie sometimes to get yo ass off the chair

[-] Nemo@slrpnk.net 4 points 11 months ago

I try not to lie, ever. That said, I'm very good at redirecting to highlight positives.

[-] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I'm a really bad liar in general.

[-] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I tell believable lies that cannot be easily checked, and when they can be I cover my bases to the best of my abilities. For example, I just started working in the UK and I moved here about three weeks ago and, just before my interview, I called a friend of mine and my ex boss (who's also a good friend of mine) and explained the lies I had put in my resume cause they were my references. The odds of them calling were almost nil but it doesn't hurt to plan ahead.

I don't like lying simply because I'm too proud of myself to hide who I am from the world and I just find it exhausting to do all the time, but I can do it when the time comes like in job interviews. I mean, I've been very competent at both of my previous jobs (I was in the army before and they didn't need references, just my passport, lol), so I trust I'll do well and not just ruin whatever company I'm working at, and don't see the harm in lying to work at this places I can function appropriately whilst zooted. It's not like I'm applying for a surgeon's job when I can barely tie my shoelaces!

But yeah, I understand how revealing facial expressions and overall body language can be and I can restrain myself competently, and I'm mentally agile. Also, both of my parents were lawyers (my mom's still alive and working cause if she doesn't move she dies, kinda like a shark, lol) and my dad was pretty abusive so it was ability I had to be good at, lol. 🤷

[-] normalexit@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

I'll tell little white lies like "why yes, I'd love to work here, your company is very exciting" especially if it is a practice interview. I did that recently where I wanted to test the job market and applied somewhere I wasn't stoked about to test the waters.

I won't lie about myself. If/when you get hired you'll have to maintain the lie and that is exhausting.

You just need to sell yourself. Highlight strengths, know your weaknesses. Don't bring up some fancy things in your field if you've only heard about them.

[-] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago

If you have to lie to get a job offer, you probably wouldn't be happy there.

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