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[-] princessnorah 48 points 2 months ago

I think it really depends on the culture of a school. It gets carried from generation to generation more than you think. That freshman saw this and it clearly had a profound impact. Once those seniors are gone the younger teens are still going to want to emulate that. There are plenty of other external factors that play into this as well though.

[-] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 23 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

i think a lot of that comes from the staff and administration as well. if the adults in the room get annoyed or exhausted by someone with special needs it basically gives the kids permission to be mean. and the staff tends to stick around.

i work with high school sports teams a lot. this DEFINITELY holds true for team culture. the number of high school sports teams that just act like teenage versions of their coaches can be unbelievable.

I always know I'm in for a bad day when the coach is a dick.

[-] Ephera@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

It was always particularly unbelievable to me, when teachers chose to get in on the bullying, since it improved their standing with the majority of the class. Like, what the fuck, you're supposed to be the adult in the room. Instead, you're such a loser that you depend on the validation of bullying teenagers.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 27 points 2 months ago

That's like a mirror universe version of my high school. Was this recent? Talking to my nieces, it seems like the public school experience has changed dramatically over the past few decades, and I'm grateful for it.

[-] reversedposterior@lemmy.world 27 points 2 months ago

My experience was the opposite of this unfortunately. Everyone hated me and even the people who didn't avoided me because I imagine being associated with me devalued their social standing.

[-] deltapi@lemmy.world 17 points 2 months ago

I guess that's what happens to people that don't like hotwheels. 🏎️🚗🚕

Next time you're a child, try liking hotwheels.

[-] reversedposterior@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

I actually had plenty of model cars, just not hot wheels! :p

[-] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago

I used to hang out in the art room during lunch in high school. There was a big metal hoop in there for some reason, and one day about ten of us kids climbed inside the hoop and went down the hall to the lunch room, spinning inside it the entire way. A teacher stopped us and said "what is this, guys?" We said "it's a hoop, sir." He sent us back to the art room.

[-] Leonixster 9 points 2 months ago

Flawless logic, I see nothing wrong with this amswer

[-] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

I'm gonna need more information about this "hoop." Do you have any pictures or drawings that can show the size of it? Was it like a giant hula hoop and everyone "spun" inside it while standing? Or was it more like a hamster wheel and kids smooshed along the edge as it rolled? I have no idea what I'm supposed to imagine here.

[-] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Was it like a giant hula hoop and everyone “spun” inside it while standing?

This.

[-] BotsRuinedEverything@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago

Growing up ADHD in the 80's and 90's was... Different.

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

yeah, it was just starting to kind of come around when i went to school. we had one mainstreamed kid with significant special needs, and most everyone loved him. not to the point of making him homecoming king, but we all looked out for him and once you knew his name you were his friend. Every once in a while (like today) I wonder what happened to him.

[-] BotsRuinedEverything@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago

I grew up in an era where special needs kids were bullied and assaulted daily. I got punished by the principal for defending myself.

[-] RangerAndTheCat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago

Should look him up OP or is one of those situation where it’s better not knowing ?

[-] baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 2 months ago

apparently corporal punishment for students was still legal in germany until 1973 and in bavaria until 1979, and still had popular support by then. people can be insane and cruel sometimes.

[-] deltapi@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Bavaria is part of Germany, like Texas is part of the USA.

[-] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

From my limited understanding Bavaria has some weirdness going on with its autonomy compared to a lot of Germany. It was the biggest kingdom integrated into the German Empire and so it got a lot of concessions if memory serves right, don't know how much of this is still true but I wouldn't be surprised if Bavaria enjoyed some special privileges.

[-] AlexLost@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago

It's the people, not the institution. If you have good leaders, you get good results. See: USA for reference.

[-] ThunderComplex@lemmy.today 10 points 2 months ago

Do people in high school really know when your birthday is and give you gifts?

[-] Luffy879@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 months ago

Nope.

[-] compostgoblin 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Sometimes! At my high school, it was a thing for your friends to decorate your locker for your birthday as a surprise. One year my friends covered my locker in Christmas wrapping paper with a giant drawing of a dog on it, because our running gag at the time was that my hairstyle made me look like a spaniel

[-] Ephera@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 months ago

If people were generally nice to him, I can see someone with autism getting excited for their birthday and announcing it to everyone weeks beforehand...

[-] SkyeStarfall 3 points 2 months ago

Depends on the people, but sure, sometimes!

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

not gifts, but i'd throw parties every year with about 50-60 people attending. my 18th had about 100. We had a large yard.

[-] ThunderComplex@lemmy.today 3 points 2 months ago

Dayum. I always thought big birthday parties were a Hollywood thing.

[-] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Nah, the hollywood portrayal, outside of everyone looking like 25 year old models, and having stylized dialogue, was pretty on point from my experience.

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

i'm a musician. had several larger social groups, and then there's the people who haven't figured out how dorky musicians actually are and think we're cool.

[-] ThunderComplex@lemmy.today 3 points 2 months ago

I’m a musician too but back then all I was was extremely socially awkward (we’re talking Bocchi would look normal next to me).

[-] davidagain@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

Wholesome.

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