Where does the article say she didn't vote, or that she was even 18 ten months ago?

Nope, shout "Fire". No one comes for rape, I doubt anymore come for pedo. But fire? They'll come.

So you called out a shitty boss\employee to upper management and they fired him. I'm pretty sure that response means they actually do care about these kind of situations. Sorry you dealt with a manager that didn't understand an applicable HR situation, but that doesn't mean the whole company is trash. Hopefully they do react the same for this situation.

Based on the article the server is a woman.

“She made me feel very uncomfortable,” Mudra said. “After that, I just don’t like going in public bathrooms. I just hold it in. ... I want to be able to use the bathroom in peace.”

There are way more cis people.

One thing is that these are the stories that actually have some vague chance at swaying a person that thinks we should be policing trans use of bathrooms. If they see more trouble and harassment of the class of people they think they are protecting, maybe part of them has to see it's doing even more against their cause than the alternative.

Another is that trans people are relatively more rare, so it just makes plain sense that this will usually happen to a cisgender person. If someone thinks that someone seems not to look like their gender, odds still are that they are cisgender just by the numbers.

Pretty sure you’re right that there’s more articles about cis people being “inconvenienced”. However I can think of at least 3 reasons off of the top of my head:

• there are way more cis people than trans people. While I strongly suspect that a larger percentage of the trans community is affected compared to cis people, purely by numbers it’s still more likely to affect cis people more frequently just because there’s so much more of them. Depending on which statistics you listen to only 0.5% - 3% of people are trans.

• trans people (and especially the ones who do not pass particularly well) are more likely to avoid public bathrooms now. Cis people are more likely to not expect any issues and not think twice.

• Apparently a decently large part of the right wing voter base would agree with trans people being denied entry into bathrooms. It’s what people decided this “law” was for in the first place (not that that this law was even applicable here). However if you show those same people that someone they empathize with also is negatively affected that’s more likely to lead to change.

The last one before this I read was an ftm guy, Luca Strobel, who had to use the woman's bathroom since there were no stalls in the men's.

https://lemmy.ca/post/45048725
https://lemmy.world/post/30614642

Though, those publications are considerably less mainstream, so you still have a point.

It’s because trans technology is so advanced that they all pass undetected. /s

In all seriousness, I think it reflects just how distorted the anti-trans bigot’s perception of reality is and how enabled they feel to act on those perceptions. These people believe that trans people are more common than they actually are and they are hyper-fixated on proving it.

I think your critique of the “not a problem until it affects me” nature of this is valid; however, this also signifies that transphobia is becoming less rhetorical and more actionable. That is terrifying for anyone who doesn’t meet the arbitrary socially acceptable expressions of gender.

My hope here is that more people will come to realize how stupid transphobia and gender/bathroom policing is when they start to realize that it affects them, too.

But can you prove your gender is neutral? 🧐

In a society where women are often harassed, many women use bathrooms to escape men, even if just for a few moments of peace.

having their retirement stolen from them is fucking vile

I'm actually surprised that I have not heard about people dying as a result of this

It's also worth mentioning Buffalo wild wings in the comments. Because they apparently don't have enough policy to keep their servers from trying to gender check people.

Do you apply a similar rule to California Rolls, Texas Toast, Key Lime Pie, New York Cheesecake, or Philly Cheesesteaks?

I mean I don't like Buffalo sauce either, but you are basically saying just skip wings altogether because everywhere seems to do this.