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[-] Sarmyth@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago

It's a nasty can of worms that never should have been opened.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 123 points 4 days ago

Transphobia also hurts cisgender people.

I would know. I was hurt by it too. It doesn't involve bathrooms btw.

[-] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 9 points 3 days ago

This looks more like homophobic cunts rather than transphobic cunts.

[-] eugenevdebs@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 2 days ago

The venn diagram is a near circle.

[-] Snowclone@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

These are all exactly the same people, if that's not clear.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

I really should've read the article better. But both are really bad for society.

[-] aow@sh.itjust.works 39 points 3 days ago

I'm not sure this had anything to do with transphobia. The attackers just sound homophobic; they probably saw her hair and don't know or care that the slur they picked isn't for girls. It's sad that she's going through this. Their girlfriends robbing them after they had been beaten down speaks volumes about what sort of people they are.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 23 points 3 days ago

It generally really sucks to be a victim of a hate crime.

[-] Ledericas@lemm.ee 20 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

oh yea it does, one of my family members was misgendered as a man when she went into the womans bathroom one time, eventhough she isnt, by an demographics that have a wierd reaction to asian people.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 21 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

The more stories about this I hear, the more I just question the reason why gender norms even exist. And I mean that in general.

Like, what do you mean men shouldn't act flamboyant and vulnerable? What do you mean little girls should always be seen playing with Barbie dolls (or in the context of my country, Fulla dolls)? Growing up, I never understood why making this distinction beyond the biological and sexual stuff was even necessary. Aren't we all humans at the end of the day?

[-] ricecake@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 days ago

100% all humans at the Endo of the day.

The reason a lot of it exists is to communicate social roles, because social role mediates interaction. The earliest division of social role was biological sex, and so that's commonly an aspect in gender.
How gender is expressed is a complex interaction between socially agreed upon norms, how the individual interprets their gender, how others interpret that, and so on.
Individual gender is a matter of psychological, biological and social factors which influence how an individual chooses to understand themselves in the context of society and also how they present themselves to society.

The socialization part is where we teach people the behavior needed to express genders, and is where the genderd toys come in, amongst other things.

All that to say, what we need is a way to communicate social role, and what we have to do that is loosely tied to sex and dominated by an imnense amount of social momentum. In a sane world the genders would be split into a lot more pieces.

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[-] Shotgun_Alice@lemmy.world 140 points 4 days ago

TERFs will try to blame trans people for this.

[-] destructdisc@lemmy.world 102 points 4 days ago

They're already blaming black people for it because the perpetrator happened to be black

[-] WhatAmLemmy@lemmy.world 71 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

"This never would've happened in my christian fascist dictatorship... The perpetrator should've been white!"

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 39 points 4 days ago

"and state sponsored!"

[-] jsomae@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 days ago
[-] destructdisc@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Assholes. Transphobes included

[-] jsomae@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago

I'm not surprised that transphobes in general are being racist about it. TERFs (emphasis on the R.F.) being racist is more surprising to me in this day and age. The current tactic of TERFs is to try to sound as progressive and reasonable as possible in order to couch their transphobia in an air of clean rationality. I don't usually see them say racist stuff like that.

[-] Miaou@jlai.lu 7 points 3 days ago

Y'all Yankees spend more time complaining about TERFs than homophobes it seems

[-] SCmSTR 11 points 3 days ago

Why do you think that is

[-] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 50 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

How sure are we that she was attacked because she was perceived as trans? This could be a simple mugging.

EDIT- nevermind I actually read the article, this was a hate crime

[-] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

It sounds like it was more of a general biggotry thing than Trans, specifically m

[-] ajoebyanyothername@lemmy.world 94 points 4 days ago

But 'you can always tell'...

[-] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 4 days ago

This was a homophobic hate crime, trans people weren't mentioned. The bigots actually guessed correctly in this case.

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[-] Shawdow194@fedia.io 64 points 4 days ago

"This should have never happened just because I am the way I am, and it should have never happened just because I was just trying to use the bathroom. But I don’t want people to be scared to stand up for themselves because they think that someone will hurt them all the time,” she told LGBTQ Nation. “I want to be seen as someone that is strong because they tried to ruin my life, but instead, they ruined their own.”

[-] SnotFlickerman 77 points 4 days ago

This woman will never feel safe using a public restroom again.

[-] Sidhean@lemmy.world 23 points 4 days ago

Not should anyone, in places like this! Yokes! Yikes, even!

[-] NatakuNox@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

That's their ultimate goal. Make women fearful and unwelcomed in public spaces. Hiding behind trans bigotry is just a win win in their eyes.

[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 46 points 4 days ago

Awful, just awful.

Y'all, don't go anywhere without some means of self-defense. A pocket stun gun costs $20, or if you live in a country where they're banned, carry a pocket corkscrew with a foil cutter on the end.

[-] ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net 42 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Stun guns, while potentially being intimidating to a lone attacker, are surprisingly ineffective if actually used for defense.

Pepper spray, specifically the type that uses a stream instead of a fine mist, is far more effective at stopping an attack and giving an opportunity to escape.

I recommend POM pepper spray, personally. The smaller versions are 50 state legal.

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[-] StarlightDust 36 points 4 days ago

This is more common still for trans people who are earlier on in their transition but the media doesn't talk about it. This violence was intended for a trans person so why do people only care when it impacts the cis? This ultimately says that violence towards trans people is ok but that it is a problem when those who aren't trans are impacted.

[-] 0x0@lemmy.zip 14 points 4 days ago

This violence was intended for a trans person

Did you read the article?

When she confirmed that she was indeed a lesbian woman, one of the individuals hit her

So, no.

And I've see n similar reports that did indeed involve trans people so... also no.

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[-] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 15 points 4 days ago

This is more common still for trans people

Not sure about this. There's way much more cis women that trans women, so attacks on "trans women" could have more cis women victims just because of the number if cis vs trans women.

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[-] Tiger666@lemmy.ca 13 points 4 days ago

And so it continues...

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