it's insane how jreg (youtuber) gave me the most solid understanding of relationships that was so obvious that I couldn't believe we didn't understand already, it's a mixture of them all, it's not a partner or a good friend group or parents, it's to be able to have them all, a therapist can be a guiding figure a mentor and another node to release stress learn from mistakes and overall a decent person to be in contact with even if your thoughts were in control and you were in a good state of mind.

Or, y know, both? Most people need intimacy, but also if you have a problem, resolving it in therapy is a responsible and good option and we should stop the mental health stigma.

I mean he described therapy

¿Por qué no los dos?

Someone who would lay down in bed with me and hold me while I cry would be a tremendous help to my mental health, but a therapist would be real nice, too. Too bad it's a five-month wait to get in to see one around here.

If you thought women growing up with uncaring fathers was bad, wait till you meet men who grew up with uncaring mothers.

Men need friends, not bros.

Especially when your partner is a vengeful mother figure that physically, emotionally, and spiritually destroys you over several years until you finally leave it all behind and recognize how empty your life has been and how much self blame was gaslit and manipulated out of you.

testosterone is the world's most dangerous chemical.

offer free therapy from people passionate about helping others, instead of charging them an arm and a leg for an hour of one persons narrow minded view of the world. i think more people would get therapy if that were the case.

until then, its okay to get it if you can afford it, or rely on friends, and family when you need to.

however on a personal note, nothing in my life has removed the burden of existence and replaced it with univeral connection, joy, and love for others and all living things like magic mushrooms have.

and on another personal note, therapy cannot change the external world, just how you choose to react to it. and especially these days, introspection and pills cannot save you from fascism, climate change, WW3, and poverty. among other things. it may just change your perspective on it.

throwing therapy into someones face as the only answer is a small minded view of reality. its not the answer for everyone. but it does have value in certain specific situations, for certain, specific people.