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[-] Spendrill@lemm.ee 163 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

What does 'lock in' mean in this situation?

Yours faithfully,

a confused Brit.

[-] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 136 points 4 months ago

Gen Z slang for saying "get it together and focus"

[-] Spendrill@lemm.ee 43 points 4 months ago

Ah ok, thanks.

Where I'm from a lock in is a pub illegally serving drinkers after time by locking the doors.

[-] stringere@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 months ago

Lock ins were all night parties for kids when I was growing up. Parents in 80s USA, wow.

[-] SharkAttak@kbin.melroy.org 4 points 4 months ago
[-] stringere@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 months ago

Undoubtedly, apologies if it was understood that I spoke as the sole arbiter of lock ins.

[-] mx_smith@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Usually in churches right?

[-] nanoswarm9k@lemmus.org 2 points 4 months ago

libraries sometimes too. basically an overnight in a non-residential space?

[-] stringere@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 months ago

My parents went to them at skating rinks where they would take their skates off and dance on the rink. They called them sock hops.

[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Ok... So maybe this is a dumb question, but is it helpful to hear that when you're having a hard time?

[-] braxy29@lemmy.world 25 points 4 months ago

i think it could be, depending upon circumstances. likewise, i think it could also be actively harmful (depending upon circumstances).

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 17 points 4 months ago

And personality type.

[-] dickalan@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

God you guys sure like to make assumptions. This place is already shaping up to be like Reddit🤣🤣🤣🤣

[-] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 17 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

"It depends on your circumstances"

What assumptions???

[-] dumblederp@aussie.zone 5 points 4 months ago

Is that not how discussions work?

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[-] papalonian@lemmy.world 42 points 4 months ago

Traditionally, to be "locked in" on something would mean to be locked in on your target, goal, etc.

Telling someone to lock in or "lock it in" is kind of like a nice way of saying "get your shit together" or "focus up". I hear it in sports/ gaming lingo.

[-] Krik@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 months ago

So it's something like 'man up'. Ok, I can understand that.

[-] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 4 months ago

There are negative connotations around "man up"

"Lock in" it just a fancy way to say, focus. But with a "we've got this" vibe to it.

[-] ulterno@programming.dev 6 points 4 months ago

gaming lingo

I see. So just press Tab, right?

[-] Venator@lemmy.nz 2 points 4 months ago
[-] stringere@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 months ago
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[-] Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

I do believe if someone told me to "lock in" while I was on a video game I would fall over laughing.

[-] papalonian@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

I mean that's the point kind of haha. I know some people use the lingo unironically, but if I tell my homies I'm bout to lock in, clutch up, and secure the dub, I don't want them to take me seriously, lmao.

When my buddies are playing, and we're being loud, telling jokes, and generally goofing around instead of paying attention, one of the common things we'll jokingly say when the laughter dies down is "alright alright alright, focus up guys, let's focus up".

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[-] Maggoty@lemmy.world 20 points 4 months ago

Cowboy up.

Get your boot straps out the dirt.

Cryers don't get healthcare.

(Okay I'm running out of Americanisms)

It's telling someone to stop being emotional.

[-] AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago

I'd say it's telling someone to focus on a task at hand

[-] Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Yeah but if that task isn't something that someone's life depends on turn it's a pretty dick move.

[-] AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Like "I need to lock in and finish this essay" sort of thing

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[-] Zomg@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

I see it as Stay Focused

[-] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 92 points 4 months ago

After all the stories about how male authors can't do realistic female characters, someone reversed it and asked how could you instantly tell if it was a woman describing a man.

The book 'The Outsiders' is about a bunch of tough guys who spend a lot of time talking about their feelings.

[-] sundrei@lemmy.sdf.org 26 points 4 months ago

Stay gold, Ponyboy. (Wow, that name aged strangely.)

[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 55 points 4 months ago

I think the middleground between toxic masculinity and overly emotion dumping femcels is a great target.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 34 points 4 months ago
[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 34 points 4 months ago
[-] besmtt@lemmy.world 15 points 4 months ago

This comment makes your first one even funnier 😆

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[-] untorquer@lemmy.world 7 points 4 months ago

The linguistic analog of a quaternion rotation.

[-] Delphia@lemmy.world 25 points 4 months ago

Sometimes "Suck it the fuck up" is good advice, sometimes it isnt. Sometimes "Process this later" is healthy, sometimes it isnt.

Emotional health is knowing what you need and when.

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[-] HalfSalesman@lemm.ee 23 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Its terrible advice. Crying is good for you.

[-] Donkter@lemmy.world 25 points 4 months ago

Crying is good for you. Lighthearted encouragement and camaraderie is also good for you.

[-] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 19 points 4 months ago

Cry all day then for maximum health?

[-] EightLeggedFreak@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago
[-] Entropywins@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

Cry harder?

[-] Sparrow_Joint@lemm.ee 5 points 4 months ago

Save your tears today

You might need them tomorrow

Mine ran out too soon

[-] Maggoty@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

Eh, it depends on the situation. There is definitely a time and place for locking your emotions down. Most people will never need it though.

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[-] Hozerkiller@lemmy.ca 21 points 4 months ago

I honestly read this and until I saw the comments I assumed they were gaming and she locked in league champ select which is a valid time to cry seeing as youre about to play league.

[-] Presently42@lemmy.ca 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I genuinely lold. I also still kinda miss lol

[-] humanspiral@lemmy.ca 8 points 4 months ago

Told my 5 year old to cry quietly once... cried louder.

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