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Any advice you’ve ever heard or given. I linked a great video that I think would be my answer, combined with the “stop caring what other people think about you” and “comparison is the thief of joy” comments below. Just do stuff that you wanna do, don’t compare and don’t care what others say. It’s awesome advice.

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[-] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 22 hours ago

You don't have to be good at your hobbies—you only need to enjoy them.

[-] WatDabney@sopuli.xyz 48 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Never loan anyone anything unless you're willing to give it to them, because that could well turn out to be exactly what you're doing.

ETA another one that just came to me, that I've always liked because it's a witty turn of phrase in addition to being useful:

If you're doing something that leads you to wonder if you should have some safety gear (gloves, particle mask, hearing protection, etc.), then the answer is "Yes."

[-] dzervas@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago

work does not define you and it doesn't reflect your self worth.

there's a very high chance you're getting rob while doing it too so do it as shitty as possible (without risking your food)

[-] ace_garp@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

How to set your side-view mirrors correctly on a car.

Make your car safer to drive.

Mirror setting video (1:40 min)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkQX2gkwJoE&t=4

[-] Redwngsfan019@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 days ago

IDK about advice per say but it kinda fits. My favorite quote from rocky.

“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward."

[-] hypeerror@sh.itjust.works 23 points 3 days ago

Take care of your body. Teeth, bones, joints, muscles, and skin can all be repaired but it's never as good as a factory original.

Also, those repairs cost time and money. My father in law is almost 20 years younger than my dad and can't do as much in a day as my dad. He's shortened his quality life because he thought shrugging off problems was what you should do.

[-] iii@mander.xyz 23 points 3 days ago

Money can be exchanged for goods and services

[-] prole@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

Explain how!

[-] impudentmortal@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

But I want a peanut

[-] whotookkarl@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago

Don't play rigged games.

Do what you think is right, but actually take some time to think about if it's right or just feels right.

Being right and being wrong feel the exact same until challenged by facts, challenge your own beliefs, use the Socratic method if you need a starting point.

[-] Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

"Don’t play rigged games" makes so many nonvoters.

[-] dzervas@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

huh, good observation - my instant thought was casinos and "climbing the corporate ladders"

(I fully disagree with not voting but your point still stands)

[-] noxypaws@pawb.social 17 points 3 days ago

"Treat others as you would have them treat you" is garbage, utter fucking trash

instead of the shitass golden rule, I prefer the platinum rule: "Treat others how they want to be treated"

[-] prole@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

That's a good point, masochists have a pretty big loophole to Golden Rule, don't they?

[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 20 points 3 days ago

Find one small thing you can cut out and save that money every week in a savings account.

When the market crashes like it did in 2008 and 2020, take every one of those dollars and put it in stocks, because during a crash, you can often get high value stocks at a huge discount that wouldn't exist in normal market conditions.

Wait 2-3 years for the market recovery and sell that stock at a profit.

Also, don't wait until your 30's to get a set of silk sheets.

If you're happy alone, be alone. You don't have to get married. You don't have to get kids. Those things suck to have if you do not want them in the first place.

[-] moistclump@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Time in the market vs timing the market, discount might buy you a couple years worth of time but if you ever investing as you go you’d most likely have made more even with the crash.

Also, bamboo sheets for me!

[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Time in the market vs timing the market

Absolutely a good way to go as well, especially if you drop that cash in fee-free index funds (Vanguard's a good way to go) or an ETF like VTI. This is absolutely the best way to go if you're an undisciplined investor, lack patience, or just want to set it, forget it, and watch your growth over time.

I just think it's also useful to have cash on the side so you can take advantage of crashes. You only get a handful of them in a lifetime and they are 100% the best opportunity to buy. I paid off my student loans with profits I made grabbing oil stocks in March 2020 for pennies on the dollar.

[-] QuentinCallaghan@sopuli.xyz 16 points 3 days ago

"Don't compare yourself to others." Everyone develops at their own pace. This also helps in building a good self-esteem.

[-] klemptor@startrek.website 8 points 3 days ago

Comparison is the thief of joy.

[-] bpt11@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago

Incredible advice

[-] blackstrat@lemmy.fwgx.uk 12 points 3 days ago

Something's are so important they're worth doing badly.

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 11 points 3 days ago

Mind your business

[-] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago

Sage advice I got from my dad: being kind to others greases the wheels of diplomacy, and it doesn't make them a bit more bulletproof.

[-] TomMasz@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago
[-] ClemaX@lemm.ee 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear – Rumi

[-] dzervas@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

nono, that's from backtrack/kali linux

[-] Sir_Premiumhengst@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Talk less, smile more?

[-] d00phy@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

If everyone adhered to this, the world would be much quieter.

[-] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago

Credit cards should be used exclusively for discounts and to build your credit. Only use them if you have the resources to pay the balance in full every month so you’ll never pay interest.

[-] perviouslyiner@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Credit cards for anything over £100 online, for the built-in fraud protection - https://www.moneysupermarket.com/credit-cards/guide-to-credit-card-protection/

[-] tetris11@lemmy.ml 9 points 3 days ago

When dropping into a half pipe, overcommit the lean. The last thing you want is to slip over backwards. Slipping forwards is fine, you just might have to roll.

[-] ace_garp@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Migrate some of your media intake and software use, to Free Culture options.

Saves money, increases the amount of free-sharing and mutual-aid in the world.

Avoids spyware, DRM, AI slop, tracking, and assorted other nasties.

Some Free Culture links listed here:

http://perthfreeculture.org/

[-] Truffle@lemmy.ml 9 points 3 days ago

I shared this before here, but it completely changed the way I live my life:

Perfect is the enemy of good enough.

So please, give yourself grace and understanding especially if you are a perfectionist. Go at your own pace.

[-] moistclump@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

We had a phrase in graduate school for group projects… “good enough, move on”. Or GEMO. When we were getting too wrapped up in the details someone would say “should we just GEMO?” And there’d invariably be a sigh of relief as everyone agreed yes, it’s good enough, let’s move on.

[-] perviouslyiner@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

"Good enough is perfect"

[-] USSEthernet@startrek.website 7 points 3 days ago

2 bathroom ones for ya

Pee before you leave

Wipe til it's white

[-] Scubus@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

What if it goes from brown to red

[-] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Get a bidet.

[-] Melobol@lemmy.ml 8 points 3 days ago

I hate this advice, but because its true for all tasks also:
"You don't need to wait til 1:45 to start studying."
So just start at 1:32:30.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

"Be yourself." is an excellent summary of your post description.

[-] forty2@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

Say what you mean, mean what you say.

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