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the rule of patriarchy inflicts all (files.catbox.moe)

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[-] dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 19 hours ago

EVERYONE needs feminism.

I was taking a history class at my local junior college when the professor asked who in the class identified as a feminist. I'm an old white guy in a class full of kids (finally getting a degree) and was one of only 3 people to raise their hands. He explained that he doesn't since he's for equality for all or some such.

I was honestly shocked to see this 30 something guy who at least sounds fairly progressive, and who has been to some legitimately horrifying parts of the world doing conflict journalism, being blase about this fight.

[-] JovialMicrobial@lemm.ee 7 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

We can thank Rush Limbaugh for popularizing the concept of a feminazi and poisoning public perception of feminism by purposefully misrepresenting what it stands for.

It's one of the most obvious examples of people successfully using social engineering and manipulation of public opinion for terrible reasons and it still worked. They didnt even try to hide it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminazi

[-] dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 hours ago

Phylis Schlafly. She cosplayed as a frumpy housewife while turning the wheels behind the scenes to help wed the evangelical movement with the GOP. While basically advocating for women to be chained to the stove. She is one of the greatest political operatives of the 20th century, helping slow and undo SO much social progress.

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 points 11 hours ago

TIL!! i knew it was a contrived term but i had no clue it was so centered around a single individual in its origins

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 8 points 19 hours ago

one of the self defenses of patriarchy is definitely just to misinform people about whom feminism is for, and so oftentimes that’s one of the first hurdles to overcome when discussing feminism. that’s why conservative spheres are often so obsessed with the “man-hating feminazi” stereotype—even though they make up a incredibly marginal subset of “feminist” voices, giving them a platform creates a useful strawman for conservatives to argue for the need of anti-feminism.

[-] dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 hours ago

I was very lucky insofar as to be raised by a second wave feminist mother (1970s so I think that's the right cadre). She was active in NOW and basically an equal partner to my father in just about all things.

Had I not, I'd like to think I'd have stumbled upon it eventually.

I wish I believed in hell, so Limbaugh could burn for his two faced sophistry for eternity. Then again, he was basically the archetypal prosperity gospel flavor of Christian, so who knows.

[-] Sir_Premiumhengst@lemmy.world 7 points 19 hours ago

Yeah. I think Emma Watson has also said sth similar. Feminism is, in some extent, also about people who identify as men to embrace what they perceive as womanly jobs. Being a socially acceptable stay at home dad will earn you a lot of weird looks and snarky comments questioning your sexuality.

And I understand that that's no where close to the shit that women and people beyond the gender binary experience on a daily basis.

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 19 hours ago

emma watson is lowkey the goat, i should pay more attention to what she puts out :) thanks for sharing

[-] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 124 points 1 day ago

Ain’t this the truth.

I’m a cis guy who likes to dress feminine around the house, and figured I’d paint my nails sparkly red and green for Christmas. Went into (my very masculine place of) work with them and got a depressing amount of comments asking if I’m gay, or expressing concern that I might be.

My dudes, it’s painted nails. I’m not trying to rail you all. Not least because my standards are far higher.

[-] Hexarei@programming.dev 8 points 1 day ago

Doing those kinds of things at home because they were fun actually led to me realizing I'm genderfluid recently. It's been crazy facing a part of my experience of life that the patriarchal society we live in essentially deprived me of up to this point: knowing how euphoric it feels to let myself want to be pretty and feminine sometimes.

[-] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 4 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Amen to that, broster.

I’m lucky that my wife is enby and a similar size, so was happy for me to try on some of their clothes. Long story short, Vinted has enabled me to build up a small wardrobe of dresses, skirts, and pretty tops that I wear most evenings. It feels nice to feel pretty.

I’m basically Captain Shakespeare.

(Robert De Niro in Stardust, dancing in his dressing room wearing lingerie and a feather boa.)

[-] Hexarei@programming.dev 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

So far I've only got socks, skirts, and hair accessories (hair down to my waist). Definitely been wanting to explore other clothing now that I know myself better.

It sounds like you're having a blast, and it's always fun to hear about how other folks have experimented. Vinted looks neat, If you've got any other tips let me know lol

[-] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 86 points 1 day ago

And this is also why its called homoPHOBIA. Often these people are literally afraid of gay(or any other queer) people. Nothings scarier than the unknown and especially if all your life theyve told you what horrible acts they perform.

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[-] laserm@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago

"bUt NoRmAlCy.." Fuck this stupid, perverse idea of normalcy. People should be free to express themselves (as long as theyre not harming anyone ofc), no matter their gender. The freedom of expression is fundamentally programmed into the human nature and must be respected in a free society.

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 26 points 1 day ago

hell yeah brother 💅

[-] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 22 points 1 day ago

That last paragraph sounds exactly like the words that need to be uttered to them.

[-] solomon42069@lemmy.world 64 points 1 day ago

Growing up, I used to cross dress and lip sync my favourite divas for my friends and family. No one seemed to mind that except my parents who flipped out over it ( Catholic ).

Frankly I don't think any child should be ashamed of having a bit of fun. I don't remember thinking "yeah I'm gonna be a girl now" - I was just dressing up to make my sister and cousins laugh... But society loves to project it's ideas onto kids hey!

[-] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I mean arguably even if you did "become a girl," why's that bad?

[-] pythonoob@programming.dev 8 points 1 day ago

Cuz Catholic.

[-] PugJesus@lemmy.world 82 points 1 day ago

It's a strange feeling, to look back on your life and suddenly see how society has crippled you, knowing how terrible it has been for you, and yet being such an essential part of you, you have neither desire to remove it from yourself nor regret.

Only a desire to stop it from happening to anyone else.

[-] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 28 points 1 day ago

This, right here, is why I'm an extremely vigilant mentor for people in my industry. It will eat you alive and take until there's nothing left. Not letting that happen to anyone.

Same stance on parenting: my kids get to be whoever they want to be, and I'm right there with them. The only thing they can't be is an asshole

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[-] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 42 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

They tried. Oh, sibling, did they try...

And the worst part is that you're fucked either way. If they manage to get you to murder your own soul, you're a husk. If they don't, you're a pariah.