This may have to do with the specific forums you are visiting. Other then when I played on .ML for a while (before I knew what it was), I've really never had any mod interactions, certainly not bad ones.

Which Lemmy instances?

I've found the lemmy.ml instances are quick to mod/ban anyone who doesn't immediately agree with them/fall in line or disprove them in any ways.

So far, it's only been limited to them, but I've heard hexbear isn't better (but I don't see them much in general so can't truly say).

Sorry you had that experience.

Even if you are an asshole you are presumably the same asshole. So maybe there is a difference in the moderators?

Most of us are assholes to someone in some way.

Anyway, what you and mods value are different so it might seem petty and petulant, but it's really more a matter of importance.

You don't think what you say is important enough to warrant a ban, the mods disagree. And because they're mods, their opinion matters more than yours which is why it feels unfair. It's not. You'd act the same way on matters of importance to you in the same position.

Considering one mod on Reddit accused me of sharing cp, despite the fact the only pictures I ever posted were of me and my wife, and we're both nearly 40, I'm gonna have to disagree there. I'm permanently banned because of that bullshit.

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"rap" as in: RAP sheet -> Record of Arrests and Prosecutions

Inb4 banned for misspelling.

Feel the same but I also am more active on lemmy and say more dumb shit

Nope, same. No rules broken or harassment to hide behind, just "I disagree with you, I can delete your comment, so I will", basically.

Small spaces have their pros and cons, I can definitely see that being a downside.

And lemmy has a much more ideologically driven culture which probably plays into things

I've had exactly the opposite experience, I've had some pretty wild takes and no interaction with mods whatsoever, federated systems make it easy to take your ball and play on another playground.

Reddit mods were always pretty heavy handed for the niches I spent time in.

I think I had worse with mods here because it's smaller. On reddit it's hard to see a ~20 people community in the front, so for the mods to notice you on reddit you need to post something very controversial or have a very overzealous mod.

It also doesn't help that on Lemmy you can have two communities called "Technology", one being about tech and the other about "why genocide is OK when this guys do it, with a side of tech".

I’m permabanned from Reddit so honestly I like the moderation better here. I haven’t even been banned from a sub.

!yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com

Same

Yeah, it can be rough at times.

That being said, I've actually had the opposite experience for myself. Only one actual dick mod cutting a fool.

I've been moderated more than once, but only one was unjustified and overboard.

Luck of the draw combined with curation of my feed via blocks, I reckon...

I've been called slurs and been banned for being new on reddit, I've not had many issues here. Hence I'm here and not on reddit.