I hate hyphenated last names. It’s more of an aesthetic thing though and not really something I actually care about. If I were a kid and had to put a long ass last name on every paper I’d be rather annoyed (my last name is long to begin with)

My girlfriend and I are talking about this, I want her to keep her last name, I want to keep mine, but I also want to share a last name with my future children.

I'm the last male with that last name, which is very unique - basically everybody with that last name is related and we can track it at least 400 years in the past and I want my children to be part of that history. But I also want my girlfriend to have the same, like having our children be connected to her family history as well. So we will combine our names to not sever those connections.

Only part of contention is which name comes first, I like it alphabetically which would put my name first, her first and last name are alphabetically following letters (like A-B eg. Anne Barn or Chloe Detmer) which is also nice, so I am torn about that question :D

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I don’t mean this as a “gotcha”, but my understanding is that in the vast majority of places where marriage doesn’t change names, the children are still always named after the parent with an outie. I just want to push back against this “western bad” meme.

I believe most countries in Central Europe do it. But it’s also possible to take the wife‘s name of course

They do it in other English-speaking countries for sure.

I know Romania does this

We decided our daughter would take my name because my wife's brother had two sons that would continue her family name. And considering my daughter is queer, it's not all that likely she's going to have a kid anyway. Not that we knew that at the time (although I used to joke that I hoped she would be because I wouldn't have to worry about her getting pregnant as a teen).

Edited to clarify.