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Could be the type of pet, the breed, how they behave, their relationship...anything about the pet that informs you on their human.

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[-] queue 72 points 3 months ago

If they don't like cats because you can't train a cat, and/or cats seemingly hate them, I consider it a warning sign they want people to obey them rather than exist with them.

Cats can't be trained like a dog. So when people complain about that and don't like them for that, I consider it a sign of "I want you to obey me, don't question it."

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 37 points 3 months ago

I also suspect they'll have issues respecting boundaries. Most people I know who're bad with cats are also bad at that.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 27 points 3 months ago

One time I was dating this girl. She had 4 cats, and recently got a dog. She had ZERO self control with that dog. She straight up ignored the cats, let the dog do whatever it wanted, and could NOT understand why her cats didn't like the dog.

Well, it's all about body language. The dog was acting like it's never been given attention in its life. It would run full speed at the cats, and then dive at them full speed. The cats did not like that. But this girl just said "See??? These cats have become so hateful since I got the dog!"

Uhhhh, no. The cats just don't like an animal 2X their size and 15X their weight divebombing them. They see you treat the dog better than them, and so don't view you as their protector anymore.

Then she said "You won't be able to pet the cats. Don't worry, its not you, it's them."

I'd say within 20 minutes I was holding one in my arms, one on my lap, one napping at my legs, and the skittish 4th one was making progress towards me.

She was right that it's not me, but she was wrong about it being the cats fault. It was HER fault.

I never met any of her friends, but she said the cats never warmed up to ANY of her friends. This tells me her friends were just as self unaware of their body language as she was.

The cats warmed up to me because when I first got there, I didn't chase them down demanding I pet them. I stuck my hand out, allowed her to sniff my hand, and the cat said no. She didn't even want to sniff my hand. So I said "ok, thats cool too." And I just maintained body language that I was calm and not a threat, but if she wanted to come say hi, she could.

Thats all it is. Just making sure they know they can be comfortable around you. And the girl I was dating at the time didn't understand that.

[-] NegativeInf@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

I trained my 8 year old Shiba Inu to live with a kitten. Previously, this dog would chase, bark, and leer at any cat it saw. Now the cat, still at teenage cat size, can literally dive bomb off the top of the cat tower at the dog and he's just like "Neat!"

Starting the other direction should be infinitely easier! A puppy is almost genetically engineered to learn from you.

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 8 points 3 months ago

100%. I've had a lot of similar experiences with people telling me their cats are mean or they don't like strangers only for it to love me because I know how to respect it's body language. When I was younger I was dating a girl who still lived at home and her family had 2 dogs and 3 cats. The dogs and one of the cats were totally chill and friendly to everyone. The other cat was younger and was constantly bolting around the house trying to play fight with everything. The third cat didn't want to be involved in any of this so usually hung out in their parents bedroom unless she was eating. When I started coming over they told me she didn't like people. It took me like 3 visits to have her coming down to sit with me when I came over and it was just like you said. When she was going by let her sniff my hand and pet her if she allowed it. If not leave her alone. It's not that hard if you respect their boundaries.

They can be trained. https://youtu.be/Uu-hRtkaVLc shows a bunch of stuff in a few minutes. I wouldn't train mine because that sounds like a lot of work for something that is just fine without the training, but it is definitely possible.

[-] PythagreousTitties@lemm.ee 8 points 3 months ago

You just spend time with them and show them what to do and what not to do. It's not that hard, as long as you pay attention to them.

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[-] tiefling 10 points 3 months ago

Cats are an experiment in consent

[-] ITGuyLevi@programming.dev 3 points 3 months ago

Cats can be taught how to do stuff, and if there is the right bond, they'll do the action when you ask. I say that because I've known a lot of people with cats that could do "tricks" (e.g. a friend had a cat that would go fetch his backscratcher after work because the cat LOVED that scratcher and knew it meant something positive to the cat.).

By contrast I know a few people with crazy cats and its almost like you (as an outside observer) can see the tension and dislike for each other radiating from both the cat and person. Most of the people with crazy cats only really seem to feed them and clean up after them. The people with awesome cats always seem to do more with them (playing, cuddling, etc), they just seem to have a better relationship with each other.

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[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 49 points 3 months ago

If stray cats in a town are friendly, that means the community is friendly. If they're timid, beware the people.

[-] michaelmrose@lemmy.world 13 points 3 months ago

Cat's in urban areas that aren't socialized are always skittish. It's about not being socialized to humans are a critical age. The areas that you are finding "friendly" strays are where people abandon former pets. Former pets were socialized at the critical age and want human contact.

Basically you are describing areas with shitty humans as areas with superior humans.

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[-] maegul@lemmy.ml 46 points 3 months ago

Generally the way they interact with the pet. Do they have empathy and respect for the pet or do they expect it to be and do what they want. You can usually pick up on this pretty quickly.

[-] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

there is crossover, I let me dog do almost anything she wants, but I do not tolerate aggression and jumping on people. if she does, she gets corrected and people are always "it's okay". no it's not ok, she can respect people by not jumping on them and possibly hurting little kids. there is a time and place for certain behaviors.

other than that, we explore and hike and do lots of fun dog stuff.

[-] cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world 3 points 3 months ago

Thank you for being a responsible dog parent. I hate getting jumped on, and sometimes their nails are sharp too and actually break skin. :/

[-] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago

thanks. yeah, i can't stand people who let their dogs jump on others, and then get mad if you raise a knee to deter it.

https://i.imgur.com/5WAYh6U.png

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[-] biscuitswalrus@aussie.zone 29 points 3 months ago

I keep asking the pets for their owners secrets but they don't tell me? I've tried pats, compliments and treats? Am I doing it wrong? How are you getting them to tell you about their owners?

[-] metaStatic@kbin.earth 21 points 3 months ago

Nothing ... unless it's a parrot

[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 20 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I stereotype that all animals are a reflection of their owner's behaviors. Mostly because I've shaped every animal I've ever been around for more than a few weeks. It is likely my consistent routine, intuition, and self awareness. I don't put up with crap, I reward good behavior, but I punish bad behavior. I primarily withdraw my attention in a pronounced way, but when an animal intentionally acts out by biting, stealing, scratching or trespassing intentionally, I toss a pillow at them. It only takes a couple of times and it stops the behavior to the point where I only need to grab a pillow in the future. I might need to toss a pillow once or twice a year. Above all, I am simply consistent in positive attention. My cats come when I call, one will fetch toys, the other asks to be brushed. We all prefer quiet. I am never scratched, bitten, or threatened with play biting or scratching. I've had a dog that played by the same rules. But like, when people come over I herd them into my room, there is a hideaway under my bed. I make new toys out of junk all the time, etc. All of my pets are like this, so I view all pets as a reflection of the consistency, self awareness, and intelligence of their owners.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 3 months ago

Just a question, no offense - are you diagnosed with ASD?

[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

I'm in social isolation from disability. On a full day of testing for cognitive effects from a massive head injury with a psychologist, I'm well above average in every category tested. I'm an outlier for functional thought with an abstract focus based on intuitive thinking skills. It is not ASD. I can seem odd to some opposing personalities, but these seem just as odd to me.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 3 months ago

To me it's mostly the emphasis on consistency and routine that stood out. Best wishes

[-] Delphia@lemmy.world 17 points 3 months ago

In Australia theres a very specific breed of bird that generally (although not always) indicates that a man is gay.

If a guy has ever had a cockatoo, theres a good chance he is gay.

[-] tiefling 25 points 3 months ago

Well duh it's right in the name

[-] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 17 points 3 months ago

Who doesn't enjoy a cockatoo on the weekend?

[-] card797@champserver.net 14 points 3 months ago

2 Dogs, 17 chickens, 5 hermit crabs, 1 fish, 4 shrimp, 1 snail, 1 silverfish. Tell me.

[-] hungryphrog 10 points 3 months ago

Silverfish?? Like the guys who crawl around your bathroom?

[-] all-knight-party@kbin.run 9 points 3 months ago

I had a decent idea until the silverfish, I think you're an alien abductor now and this is your sick collection.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

eats the shrimp

Hey, you're out of shrimp.

[-] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 4 points 3 months ago

What is a silverfish? Like... The bug? Perhaps this is a regional thing

[-] card797@champserver.net 3 points 3 months ago

My sweet daughter rescued it from the bathroom.

[-] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 months ago

Wait you didn't include your kids in that list?

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[-] TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 12 points 3 months ago

I have (have) had 13 cats at one time. I'm down to 6.

[-] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago
[-] TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 30 points 3 months ago

Bruh I said I'm down to 6.

And can you blame me?

I mean look at them..

[-] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 13 points 3 months ago

Well, yeah.. when you put it that way.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 17 points 3 months ago

I told a girl I moved in with that we have a limit on pets. Either 1 dog, or 2 cats. Thats it. I'm not going to be walking down the street with 15 dogs, and a room dedicated to cat litter boxes.

Zero cats? Maybe you need a cat.

One cat? Maybe your cat needs a friend.

Two cats? This is an acceptable amount number of cats.

Three cats? This is getting out of hand, but maybe you found a foster cat that you decided to permanently home.

Four cats? You're officially the crazy cat lady from the simpsons.

[-] jaycifer@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago

My rule is that pets are not allowed to outnumber humans in the household.

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[-] shalafi@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

Don't have a dog ATM, but when I did, and had scummy friends and neighbors, I noticed that thieves are always afraid of dogs.

[-] Bertuccio@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

Unless they own a parrot, not much.

[-] lemmylommy@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

99% of dog owners chose a breed that looks similar to themselves.

If you ask people about their favorite pet or breed and why they chose it, they will tell you what they most value in humans as well. Usually it’s also how they define themselves (more or less accurately).

[-] SpacetimeMachine@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

I guess I technically do value humans I'm not allergic to, but so far that hasn't come up in my life yet.

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[-] ChaosCoati@midwest.social 6 points 3 months ago

I have a cat, a dog, a rabbit, and chickens. Now I’m wondering what people assume about me because of them.

I think people who have active dog breeds (like shepherds, huskies, and other working dogs) are probably active themselves. Beyond that it’s more telling to me how they treat their pet, regardless of what kind of pet it is.

[-] Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 months ago

It tells me who has money and who doesn't.

[-] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

I have multiple fish tanks and a shrimp tank. What’s that say?

[-] csm10495@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 months ago

That you have multiple fish tanks and a shrimp tank.

[-] dwindling7373@feddit.it 4 points 3 months ago
  1. They have a pet.

  2. If they relate to them as if they were humans that usually correlate, in my experience, with them having very low empathy for actual humans.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 2 points 3 months ago

Now, I am not saying all snake owners are drug dealers, but every drug dealer I've ever known has a pet snake.

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