A lot of people have overlooked great things because they were waiting for something better to come along.
How dare you know my life better than I
I dare all!
Some of my (our) favourite moments are the times we're the most lost.
Unplanned.
My ancestors had a phrase that has become the popularized saying "today is a good day to die"
Hokahey
Crazyhorse being the badass he was, would yell it when charging into battle.
It's not really meant as "time to die" but more of I am ready! I am brave. I am strong. I love my family and they love me. If today is the day, so be it. I am ready for judgement!
This dad is practicing what it means.
That's awesome. Sounds like your lineage is Klingon.
The Lakota were the badasses that forced the US Army to surrender. The Dakota areas would be a much different place if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.
So the Klingons using that phrase has always been a lovely thing
if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.
They should've tried more dysentery. Worked on me.
Also, small rivers that need fording.
Well done, OP, for realizing it in the moment!
It's actually pretty easy. Look around you and be grateful for what you have and stop thinking about all the things you don't have.
If you're waking up on a rainy Monday and not hating your life, you're doing pretty well.
I love rainy Mondays
My youngest and I have been on our own since she was 8 months old. She's now 11. She has two older siblings and 4 nieces and nephews. She went to spend last summer with her sister and family and asked to stay through the next summer. That was July 16th 2023. Hardest decision I've made yet. But I couldn't find a reason to say no that wasn't selfish or self serving. She needed this time. Her mother hasn't been in her life and her 27 year old sister is the "mother figure" she clung to.
She will be home in a few weeks.
It's the moments like these I miss the most. Watching them in real-time discover themselves.
Anyway, y'all just take every fucking chance you get to sit still in moments like these. Enjoy them.
This kind of thing is seriously the best that life gets. Being able to recognize those moments and appreciate them is one of the best skills somebody can obtain. Mindfulness meditation and stoic philosophy have helped me immensely in being able to appreciate these types of situations for the real value that they have.
As a father of a toddler, I try to appreciate every day and not take these types of moments for granted.
I'm very mindful of the fact that this time I'm living in right now is the period of my life that I'll revisit in my memories on repeat when I'm an old man.
The only time that exists is the present. Enjoy it!
Don't live in the past or the future, they existed and they will exist, but they don't exist. Only the present does.
It's choir and a local sub shop for my me and my daughter.
Also, our constant argument about who is better, Alastor or Vox.
Whoever she says is better, is better.
Trust me on this one, the ROI is unmatched.
My little one and I had a secret thrill together. He had a very early commitment on Saturday, so we’d go to Friendlys after. It was still pretty early so families would be there eating breakfast, while we were “those” people with an ice cream Sundae. All those kids would be so jealous thinking my little one got to have ice cream for breakfast, and I always got glares from exasperated parents. Little did they know we’d been up for hours, already had a good breakfast while it was still dark, and had already spent more time doing stuff together than many of them would the entire rest of the day
Yooo... ever since having my first child, my daughter, it feels like time is fkin flying. Every single day at work I'm thinking to myself.. I want to be home with my family, I need to find a way out of wage slavery.
After my son was born I would get up in the morning, usually before he and wife were awake, go to work. When I got home from work I would be lucky to see him for an hour before my wife put him to bed. Hardly ever saw him.
Then the pandemic happened, he just turned two at the time. I was then told to work from home. It was brilliant. I got to spend so much time with my son. I still work from home now but he's at school these days.
The pandemic was not kind to a lot of people but for me personally I have great memories because of it.
Damn, this is about the same scenario with me. But after being laid off in my last role, which was remote, I got stuck into a role where I have to be on-site. I'm still applying to remote roles, I can't settle for on-site work especially when 90% of my work can all be done through PC/Internet access.
As a childless Millennial, nothing sounds weirder to me than to hear someone speak like a Zoomer and mention having a child in the same sentence. In my eyes, y'all are still teenagers.
I'm a millennial.. and I'm still young in mind. Adulting is hard.
Adulting is hard 😑 didn't exactly help I emigrated to my spouse's home country, we had our child, I (finally) got my career properly going, and we bought a house, all in a span of two years. But, even without all that, adulting would be a lot. Up until I started actually feeling like an adult, I wanna say somewhere in my 30s, it usually seemed like adults had their shit together. Either life used to be somewhat easier, or part of adulting is getting really good at pretending you have your shit together...
I spent my childhood sitting in the back of a car whilst my mum and her best mate would moan about men every night, or following them around to see if they were in the pub getting pissed so she could go and throw drinks at him.
One day we came home as we were being burgled, probably my people my step dad knew.
I would have taken ballet and ice cream, even as a dude.
Every Wednesday I take my daughter to scouts. After scouts we take an unnecessarily long way home, playing music we like at each other and chatting. It's a highlight of my week too.
My mom and I don't have a lot in common, and I think part of it is she sometimes worries she didn't spend enough time with me as a kid because she worked so much. Her taking me to music lessons and then hot cocoa afterwards are some of my coziest memories with her.
I want this but I can't even take care of myself, let alone another human. :(
I believe in you. :)
I’m with it. I’ve been living the same day for over 10 years. It’s groundhogs day.
Not long enough.
Sigh.
He doesn't talk back to her? That's awkward. "Remember when dad would take me for ice cream and not say anything to me while he messes with the radio?"
I dont know what age the kid is, but i know lots of kids that just love talking like a never ending waterfall. Shes probably telling him every single detail of what happened during ballet class like it is a shakespeare play. And if you love your kids then you wanna hear that.
Almost definitely this. "...and I went over to the teacher and asked if we could dance to Let It Snow, but Becky said she didn't like that song, so but then Jenny came over and said she did, so the teacher asked everyone who liked it to raise their hands and almost everyone did so she put it on and we got to dance to it! Oh, and then, Becky even got excited about it part way through and I think she likes it now, too, so the teacher said we can listen to it again next week! But Tanya's mom came to pick her up early because she had to go to the dentist, so she missed the best part, and then..."
This is exactly what i had in mind. Thank you for adding to my comment :)
Having an engineer for a father, yes, I remember. It always ended with "Car Talk." /s
"DON'T DRIVE LIKE MY BROTHA"
Kids are honestly a vomitorium, though. They want to be listened to. IMO, the time for your input is when they ask for it, which is still often. The generational gap makes things just as awkward as not speaking.
Edit: This comment chain got really toxic for some reason
Kids are an entrance or exit passage in an ancient Roman amphitheatre or theatre?
Metaphorically, yes. They let a lot of things out. That's why it's called that. It means ""to spew forth. " (that's in your link)
People used to think it was a place where people vomited.
I miss those days.
But children must become teenagers.
Nasty, ignorant, disrespectful teenagers.
Otherwise, we'd never let them leave and become adults.
Fun to joke about but activities with my teens are still my highlights. They don’t have to be the stereotype.
The real problem is their increasing absences, their approaching independence. It’s really frustrating fostering their independence, pulling back from taking care of them, dreading their impending “graduation” into adulthood.
On the other hand at my performance review, my manager spent most of the time encouraging to get back into dating now that kids are gradually leaving, trying to give me tips and encouragement, so I got that going for me
I have a 4 year old son and I absolutely love taking him to have some ice cream (he loves Yogurtland). The excitement and smile on his face when he gets a treat he likes is the thing I will think about most when I'm on my death bed. It wasn't the new car or the promotion that will cross my mind, it will be about spending time with him and doing things which make him the most happy.
Those nights are definitely a good thing!
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