So just at a park in Brunny, and it's faint with the eyes, but my phones picking it up :D
Taken from my backyard using iPhone 3 second exposure. Can’t really see it to the naked eye but insane on camera.
Went out for dinner tonight, Korean BBQ. On our way out my kids helped out a server who was carrying too many things, when I was paying the tab.
The owner/manager told me I had a beautiful family and that my kids were super polite.
I nearly broke down crying.
I’ve been vaguely sick for like, a week and a half. I almost wish I was sicker, because then I’d have an excuse to opt out of things rather than trying to brute-force through them all
So, I have a small guilty pleasure now: I downloaded tiktok and am loving all the videos with pets tbh.
TW: DV
But I watch one video by an Aussie lady about women's rights and whatnot, and now tiktok thinks that's all I want to watch. 😭 Like, 4b movement stuff, the rate of homicides, etc. It's interesting but like, also triggering of course. I'm in the process of re-teaching the algorithm or whatever.
But I also feel like I don't have a right to talk about my experience, not because of what they've said or anything like that. But because my abusive ex was male and male presenting for the VAST majority of our relationship, until the last 6 months where they only came out to me about being a tran-woman. So, like, they're part of this super marginalised group, having told their friends I was transphobic. I don't feel like I can talk about it with anyone (besidesy dad and my partner), without, like, playing into that lie they told. I believe they are, of course, trans, but also that they use it as an excuse to not take accountability for their heinous actions. That if I did file a police report, that I'd be called transphobic and a false reporter. What a strange position to be in. Just needed to have a small ranty rant about it, because I haven't seen anyone else anywhere have, or talk about, an experience like mine without also being transphobic. I always feel like if I talk about it, if I don't use the right pronouns, or if I clarify "well they were male, but are now female" it's about women-on-women DV. Which, it wasn't, but is it?
Ugh, just gonna keep saving up for a psych appointment and hopefully I can start feeling better about being in this tiny bubble of one.
A dickhead is a dickhead, no matter what gender they are/were/present as. Bad behaviour/manners should be called out. There's far too much victim blaming happening. Not a situation I've ever faced, so please take that for what its worth, if anything.
Them being trans doesn’t mean that what they did to hurt you wasn’t also abusive. Women - including trans women - are entirely capable of abuse.
I believe you. You deserved better.
Am I biased in saying crazy cat ladies (and gents) are the best people?
Anyway, little Spunky got a surprise today when his mum got an Amazon delivery today. A big new box for a little kitty 🐈📦
Crashing soon so I can be up at 6am. Interview Monday requires me to be in the city at 9am and I want to have some practice in advance.
Enjoy your evening everyone ❤️
Heading to a big (and free!) outdoor park bass party tonight and easy to get to. Always good vibes.
Hopefully the fun police won't shut it down.
Really good to see a crew start thowing these again.
Which calls for a rave choon.
SKY PRETTY
Thumb wound day 6. I don't believe I'll need to amputate
spoiler
A mighty fine scar! You have done battle with the GODS and have come out with an epic scar to show! Slay, King!
I couldn't have done it without the love and support of everyone here ❤️
Draw eyeballs on it
So I have to decide if a 4 hour a day commute a few days a week is ok or to look for another job. They changed the rules on me and went all return to office. It’s a damn tech job - no office presence even required.
I don’t want to give up my dog :-(
24 hours:
7 hours sleep.
1 hour preparing for work.
8 hours working.
4 hours commuting.
2 hours preparing and eating food.
That leaves 2 hours for everything else. I could not do this.
I did almost that for about 6 months when I got my first ‘real’ job before finding a place to move. Almost killed me, especially since Sat got lost to house hunting. Zero life. Do not recommend.
Ouch. It might be ok for a couple of days a week but it is not ideal. You basically have to write off those days completely and you also can't do any of the little chores you would have otherwise done around or after work either (things like doing your washing) so you lose a little bit of other days too.
I got some details about the next people who are moving in. On the lead tenant front, we're getting a new one "sometime soon". I've been told his name, and that's he's a Resi worker, but not much else. On the kids/YP front, we're getting a newbie from my old org, probably around the same time. I don't want to stereotype, but he's coming from, uhh, quite the rough house. He's also AOD affected from what I've been told, and has issues with nicking stuff.
I feel cautiously optimistic about the new LT, but I haven't met him yet. He's also quite religious from what I've been told, while I'm quite staunchly atheist. I don't really care, as long as he's not the preachy type, which it doesn't sound like he is. I'm quite nervous for the new YP though. I'm mainly nervous because the current LT is moving out a week or two after they move in. Can't blame him, he's been here for many years, and if I was in his shoes, I'd bail too. But we get along really well, and because he lives here and has experience with the system too, he argues with them on a lot of out of place policies. The new bloke is a Resi worker, and it's basically part of their training to not question orders and just do what they're told.
:/
It sounds like a really tumultuous time. I hope everything works out for you. Sometimes people from super troubled backgrounds can be a bit better when they have a change of scenery.
Hopefully.
As someone who was regularly stolen from by flatmates - get yourself a small safe, keep it out of view under your bed, and bike chain it to your bedframe so it can't be carried off. Journals, wallet, money or cards, ID, small electronics, sentimental items, prescription medication etc go in here when not in use. Keep your phone with you. If cost is a barrier you could also just get a lockbox of some kind, like a lockable toolbox. You can also get small stash containers that look like everyday items.
Also get yourself a subtle lanyard/wallet chain to keep your room key on you and lock your bedroom door when you go shower. Like, don't be obvious about it and cause tension, you don't want him to see you do these things or act weird like you're sus of him. But just don't be casual about easy access to your room or belongings until you know you can trust him. If he ever notices just keep it light and say it's out of habit.
"Haha, just a holdover from the old place. (The lockbox?) This is a high crime area, you heard about that burglary. (But if he knows about your lockbox? HMMM.) Oh that? It's habit, if I don't remember to lock up my room everytime I forget to do the main door! If I didn't have this chain/lanyard I'd lose my key! Nah, I just like taking my phone to read on the toilet/play music while I'm in the shower."
If this turns out not to be needed, great! But having some self protective strategies might help you cope better until you've sussed the new guy out.
Edit: Oh yeah and password your computer. Hit the shortcut for lock anytime you walk away from it.
And since you work. If he ever asks, you're broke. You've already spent your paycheck on rent, food, a replacement part that was desperately needed for repairs. Sorry homie. I got nothing left to lend you. Keep purchases of anything nice hidden or save it for when you're living on your own. You don't want someone racking your headphones or sneakers.
My reddit accounts got caught up in r/australia's ban evasion AI nonsense and I got mega banned, no more helpful comments for people bad at google I guess. I liked being helpful there. It'll give me more time to be helpful elsewhere I guess.
Health is still absolutely caning me. Constant pain and not able to keep on top of things. I hate using disposable products... Landfill and paying for stuff that gets literally thrown in the bin... but at the moment it's kind of necessary.
I'm cutting down on that wherever I can but it'd be nice if I had a little countertop dish drawer to run every time I had a full load. It would save water too. Wonder if I could get it funded. I've been budgeting well lately so could perhaps save to get one but vet bills always take priority and it also seems I've got stuck in tightarse mode.
hugs, we do what we can do.
have you been able to go outside and look at the aurora? 😊🌌
Organised myself a car for the day. Organised my shopping lists...got to the goget bay...forgot the little swipe card thing.
An hour later back home and starting over again. Don't try to do things before your morning coffee kiddoes
I wonder if this geomagnetic storm is setting off fire evacuation alarms in the city, or if people are just extra unlucky burning their toast this morning.
Holy shit
So jealous of these aurora photos. Tried from my place just now with phone and getting nothing. I think there’s too much light pollution and no view of the horizon because it’s a built up area. Boooo.
I know it's literally light rail but watching how far the other states will contort a sentence to avoid saying 'tram' is fucking hilarious to me
Nigh nighs
Just a reminder to everyone if people are asking you for free tech support you're good until monday just blame the solar storm.
Edit that didn't last long. Just got a call from mum.. netflix not working. She had turned off the wifi :(
Calm down people the Sun is just having a little tanty.
I'm getting the hang of using watercolours. It's exciting. 😃😃😃srsly, it's cool . I'll post some pics when I do full page.
At this point Aussie Frugal Living consists entirely of me. Did I establish dominance and win Best Tightarse, so everyone is now too intimidated to post? Because I am pretty good at it. /j 😉
Also if you've got frugal food tips/recipes do they go in there or do they go in Food Australia? (ie telling you how to make toasted sandwiches without a jafflemaker, only a frying pan you've already got, or how to turn leftovers into fillings)
@Seagoon_ So I really slept in this morning.
Is everyone's electrical gadgets still working? No big blackouts?
Rebel Yell came on just as I got to the last hill this morning, doggo kicked into gear and started galloping instead of his usual trot, and I ended up getting a PB. Sub 25m/5k, which I'm very happy with.
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