I'm poly and just celebrated my 1 year Trio-versary today! Haven't seen any poly memes on here yet so it's funny it comes up today

I may have a strange definition of marriage that might come from my complete lack of religion. Churches are, after all, mostly in the business of being not okay with the subject of genitalia, which is mostly what has shaped the "institution of marriage."

I would like to have a long-term friend, a non-blood relative I have known for a long time, whose character I can vouch for, someone approximately my age, to hold my power of attorney, as my insurance beneficiary, and stuff like that, and I to them. I need not ever pork this person. I need not live in the same house as this person.

I do not consider myself polyamorous, I'm not particularly interested in swinger wife swap whatever. I tend to prefer having lots of sex with one person. But, in the modern world, partners do come and go. Job opportunities arise (or more frequently jobs evaporate and they have to go back somewhere they can more easily afford) and it's completely insane to ask someone to follow you. Or you just get tired of each other. Legally attaching onesself to your favorite person to fuck does not seem like a viable financial strategy. Look how many people it destroys every year.

Perish the thought of having children.

So, the thing that other people have, where they've picked one human to be a roommate/permanent sexual partner/insurance beneficiary/person whose allowed to shit while you're taking a shower/eventual divorcee? I don't understand wanting this for yourself.

Signed,

A bachelor

Strangely, the only poly people I seem to come across are bi-guy in relationship with woman and female-to-male trans-man. I know other polycule types exist, but for that type, to paraphrases Rick Sanchez: "That just sounds like polygamy with extra (accepting) steps."