I noticed something similar with my in-laws, as far as ruining your family relationship by not accepting people. The grandma goes on rants to her daughter about anti-trans and the pronoun (they/them). She has so much energy for this hate she preaches to her daughters (she has 2) all the time they talk. Always grabbing those talking points.

One daughter has 4 kids and they are all under 18. Some of them experimented with gender fluid stuff. I'm not well versed enough to explain. I know one goes by they/them and the grandmother won't make an effort, or when she messes up the gender she makes a big scene of "I'm old, it wasn't like this. Blah blah."

The really weird thing is after all this hate and after the grandma started putting up walls to her grandchildren (because of the hate she preaches about their siblings). Now she complains that no one wants to talk to her or hang out with her when she visits. Does she not know she was talking about her family during those rants?

She got hooked on some alt right news bs. Started saying she was a tradwife, making butter, and looking for raw milk. Idk what happened, especially since I saw her when she was "strong woman" and gay friendly when she was raising her kids.