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Lmaooo dude fuck these genes anyway. The men in my family are all either shitty and abusive or depressed/dead from depression. Let’s gooooo
That's a result of society, not their genes.
Not just society. People with differing gender identities think differently, while hormones also influence how you think. Testosterone makes all people more aggressive and people with more masc identities think differently to those with less masc identities. It's a spectrum with multiple dimensions that all contribute to one's internal range of comfortable identities. Who fucking knows the specifics, but that's probably the general picture.
Gender identity kind of needs to be based in biology rather than culture, because otherwise conversion therapy would work and social contagion theories would hold water. Queerness is based in biology, but scientific labels of normality are also socially constructed tools of power that can be used for abuse. Queer theory and evolution are not incompatible. Evolutionary science doesn't inherently invalidate nonbinary gender identities, and doesn't validate most aspects of binary sex. Only sex cells evolved to be inherently binary, everything else varies based on incentives rather than rules.
Talking about biology and evolution in regards to gender feels so icky to us because it has been used as a tool for oppression so much in the past. It's like race science used to justify oppression of non white people. They use the authority of science to say we don't exist, refuse to accurately document our experiences, apply cisheteronormative assumptions even when they don't make sense, and claim that we're all freaks of nature instead of nature working as intended.
Just like how racial minorities have taken evolutionary theory from white supremacists as an authoritative tool of oppression, we need to take it back from transphobes and transmeds that want to invalidate and abuse. They assume that we should model our lives after nature, but we really shouldn't. Nature thrives on death and suffering. It isn't enviable; we just need to figure out how to live in it.
I think your point is confused. You seem to be saying that gender and biology are able to be linked and the issue is that the mode of linking them stems from an oppressive system. Which, I agree it's bad to link them in the way society does. But your last paragraph says racial minorities have "taken" evolutionary theories from white supremacists which seems to imply that there is an evolutionary theory that says some racial minority is superior to others and the issue is just that white people think it's them. Linking it to your other point you seem to think that some expression of gender within our current context is superior to some other.
I feel that it's pretty clear that things like gender and race are entirely socially constructed. Saying otherwise places an evolutionary imperative on the conclusion.
The idea that gender is entirely socially constructed is easily the greatest misconception about gender that gets repeated time and again -- almost always by cis people, who never think too much about it because they've never had to reconsider their own gender.
Gender roles and gender stereotypes really are socially constructed, like the idea that some clothes are feminine and others are masculine, just to name one example. Gender identity, however, is not. If that was true, like the previous commenter was saying, conversion therapy for trans people would work, when it's been shown it absolutely doesn't. Gender dysphoria isn't a social construct either. Many trans people see their own lives improve considerably after taking HRT (hormone therapy) and having gender-affirming surgeries -- how can that be explained socially? Also, we know there is a genetic component to being trans as well, because of twin studies. All of which shows there really is a biological component to gender -- just not in the "gender = genitals" way that transphobes think.
You're right, saying it's entirely socially constructed isn't right. That's my mistake. I was saying that in opposition to OPs comment which seemed to compare the differences between genders to the differences between races and tie biology into it, which is a much blurrier and socially constructed line.
Ok I'm going to put my masters in neuroscience to good use. When right wing idiots talk about "biology" or "genetics" they always refer to karyotype IE XX Vs xy. But this is r******d. What makes you you isn't random DNA configurations as much as it is the downstream products of that. Neuronal connections and endocrine interactions
FMRI studies scans of trans women (pre and post HRT) are much more similar to cis women than to cis men. Again, this is also before HRT. So yeah at least in neuroscience gender is testable (to an extent) and supports the assertion that trans women are biologically women. The reverse is also true for trans men. It would also provide a clue as to where some of the dysphoria comes from. (Disconnect between the endocrine system and the nervous system) If your brain is in lady mode and it's being bombarded with testosterone it's not going to be happy. In order to get the two to match up you can either rewire the entire brain (not possible or advisable) or go on HRT.
Obviously gender affirming surgeries have their place, but making the hormones and the neurones cooperate is probably the most important thing as far as keeping the noggin healthy is concerned.
I'm of the opinion that being queer is somewhat of an adaptation, even aiding in reproduction. Many queer people don't realize that they aren't cishet until many years after puberty. Science has focused on people that "always knew" that they were queer, often assuming that people who didn't aren't actually queer.
If anything, it makes way more sense for us to discover it later, if ever, as we can then pass on our genes when might not have otherwise. Lesbians and gay men often have kids, only to find out that they aren't straight and help raise the kids they might not have had if they knew earlier. It's not just kin selection that favors gay people.
Trans people also reproduce with cis people, as only a minority are exclusively heterosexual. Imagine a gay cis man, struggling with the expectations of needing to get with a woman, but always knowing he didn't want that. One day, l he finds someone assigned female by society, but who acts like a man in every way they can. This person would interact like one of the boys, as he thinks like a cis man on a neurological level. The gay dude was never interested in "females," but he falls for this person because they aren't really a woman beyond reproduction. He shacks up with the trans dude ofc, passing on his genes directly instead of through his kin.
Even straight trans people do T4T, so there really isn't anyone who can't directly pass on their genes unless there's something else causing infertility. Queer people don't need straight people to make more of us. Heteronormative assumptions from straight people that don't talk to us has prevented evolutionary biologists from understanding the true picture. They can't understand why we exist so they deny that we do. So dumb 🙄
People aren't rational creatures.
Yup, which is why science needs diversity to overcome our own stupidity. By covering for each other's unique irrationality, we become more rational than ever would have alone.
Stupid apes together smart 🐵
Evolutionary theories were used by white supremacists to claim that white people were genetically predisposed to rule over others. That's a big part of what race science was. Their theories were wrong, just like how Blanchard's understanding of trans people is wrong. These theories weren't even ancient history, as there have been papers in the past 50 years that tried to claim black people had lower intelligence based on genetics.
What racial minorities have done is taken away the authority from these racist theories. Skin color and facial features are inherited via genetics, but race is a construction that tries to tie these traits together, often very inaccurately in an effort to support social oppression. Race is a crude and imprecise approximation of one's genetic lineage that people attach inherent meaning to. The essence of race comes after the material properties of the person.
The same is true for all categories and descriptions of reality; it's just more abundantly obvious in the case of race. Even the most fundamental theories of physics are us applying essence to matter in an effort to understand it. We thought atoms were the smallest units of matter, that's literally what the word means. However, not only are atoms divisible, protons and neutrons are divisible while the negative counterpart to the proton, the electron, is not. Physicists try their best, yet there are still things they know they don't understand.
As we go higher up the chain of complexity from physics, from chemistry to biology to neurology to psychology to sociology, it becomes obvious that things cannot be clear cut or absolute. As I said before, only sex cells are really binary, with everything else being based on incentives. However, even that binary probably came about because of an incentive to have unequally sized sex cells over equally sized sex cells. There just isn't a powerful enough incentive for sperm and egg cells to equalize in size capable of overcoming the incentives for the sperm to be as small as possible.
Where was I...?
Oh yeah, gember!
Gender, similarly to race, is an approximation of traits. Unlike race, the traits influence one's preference or willingness to be seen and thought of as specific genders, both by other people and by themselves. Those traits seem to influence what gender they are comfortable with or can even tolerate, although we have no idea what they are or how they work. We probably won't figure them all out any time soon, and we probably shouldn't assume we ever understand all elements of it. Gender differences are more correlates of one's gender, and we cannot expect to establish causality in any ethical way.
I also believe that one's internal gender works more like a range of acceptable identities and expressions rather than a single fixed point. It's probably the case that many cis people would tolerate or even prefer being somewhat off the binary, as well as their assigned gender. If cis people experimented, many of them would be happier using they/them or neopronouns in addition to their cisgendered pronouns. Many cis people enjoy gender bending expression while not identifying as the other binary gender or as nonbinary. One doesn't need to conform their identity, pronouns, or expression to each other.
That said people will generally prefer there to not be great dissonance between their expression/pronouns/identity. If somebody feels happier presenting as a man everyday and being referred to with he/him pronouns, it's unlikely for that person to be an entirely cisgender woman in the long term. As more binary trans people like myself can attest, some genders just aren't right for us. I couldn't be he/him and not feel like shit. Power to the people lucky enough to have multiple genders they feel comfortable with, but that's just not me. I tried they/them and being off the binary, but it was not the same as being a girl. I don't want to be seen as anything else and I don't have a choice.
Nature is not kind to women, but men aren't exactly fortunate. Evolution incentivizes a solid percentage of men to die prematurely via testosterone induced aggression in their early adulthood. They generally don't form the same sort of support systems as women, meaning that they're often alone in their darkest moments. There are other factors, but those probably play the biggest role in their suffering.
Being a man sucks arse... And not in a good way.
It's such a lonely existence. I wish I could offer them advice, but I don't fully understand what they're going through. I've walked in their shoes for 2 decades, so while I know how they suffer, I don't actually know what would make them happy. Men like being men and I cannot relate to that.
I would offer some insight, but I experience a not inconsequential amount of dysphoria myself, so I doubt it would be terribly valuable. I really don't like being a man. It sucks arse.
People who don't want to be men aren't men, and we cannot solve men's problems. All we can do is support and let them know if something doesn't work for us. They need to man up and find solutions themselves.