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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Amelia_ to c/mtf

Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

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[-] Zorsith 12 points 9 months ago

The whole "vanish for a couple years and show back up as a woman" appeals so much... I just don't think I could do that to my mother. The rest of my family I couldn't care less but I would feel guilty not involving her.

Maybe in a couple years, some therapy for anxiety, and a different job, I'll think about coming out. No HRT anytime soon, family and personal history of growing/developing EXTREMELY fast I get the feeling it would out me within months haha

For now, hair removal and some comfy clothes to wear at home is my goal. Found an electrolysis place nearby that does roughly $85 an hour (no matter what I've wanted permanent hair removal "down there" since it started growing.) Maybe laser to greatly thin out bulk body hair.

Was supposed to get some pretty (over knee and thigh high) socks delivered today but something went wrong; supposedly were delivered, but i think they went to the wrong place ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

[-] MeDuViNoX@sh.itjust.works 9 points 9 months ago

They were delivered to me by mistake, I am keeping them. ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

[-] Rye 7 points 9 months ago
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