How old were you when you began questioning/considering you weren't "normal"?
I'm in my 30s and almost all at once feel like I'm not sure what I am in most demensions and struggling to figure out what I feel about anything. I've been married, happily for a while, which adds a little to the confusion.
I'm not sure what "a-spec" means, and my best assumption at the current time is that I am somewhere in the non-binary area, but the romantic part of the spectrum is definitely new to me as of the last couple weeks.
A-spec = Ace/Asexuality spectrum