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Nobody says it anymore
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I've heard it explained that "hey" used to be more of an urgent way to get someone's attention, rather than a casual "hello" like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.
"No problem" takes "You're welcome" and implies that it was of no inconvenience to you either. But I understand that older generations find it important that service workers be most humbly at their service, and adhere to a strict social etiquette just short of "Yes, m'lord" and "Shall I suck upon your dick, sir?"
"You're welcome" is more appropriate in a professional setting, but if you're getting your jimmies in a rustle over someone saying "No problem" to you instead, you're a bit of an assfuck.
It’s literally meanings of words strung together being described.
You are welcome = you are welcome to my servitude
No problem = I don’t mind doing this thing for you
Oh you. 🤦♀️
I don't think either phrase is impolite. Good manners are a made up thing. If someone said 'thanks' to me and I said 'tiddle dee dee' I'm not being rude, just a bit weird, nobody's honour has been questioned, I haven't said anything that could be taken as an offence.
If you are a service worker at a restaurant, then that is literally your job, to serve.
I love it when I order a sandwich at my local banh mi place near my office and you can see the cashier literally eye roll every customer that orders. They can't even look you in the eye...
If you want people to be happy to be serving you then demand that they are paid more.
Otherwise buy your sandwich without any delusions of grandeur and fuck off.
Min wage is $15/hr
And why do people need to pander to you specifically? Cant people be themselves?
Those are narcissistic traits.
This is just wrong. Tone matters just as much with "you're welcome" as it does with "no problem". Language is fluid like that, and it's completely arbitrary to elevate one of these expressions over the other when both are in common usage.
Also, you're deliberately misrepresenting what "no problem" means, in regards to "that's the only reason you complied". Nobody says it that way, and I don't believe that you think they do.
I often say “hey, anytime”. Is that acceptable?
I personally see "anytime" as a much more appropriate reply to "thank you" than "no problem".
The implication is that a problem was assumed until "no problem" was stated.
"No problem" is absolutely low key rude.
To me, 'No problem' is just short for something like "oh don't worry about it; it was really no problem at all and I'm happy to help".
Colloquialisms are fun like that.
The context in which the listener is expected to comprehend communication is important if the speaker hopes for the intended message to actually be communicated.
If the speaker chooses to ignore how the listener is expected to perceive their communication then I'd say that actual communication was never truly their intent... seems more like linguistic masturbation to me.
Bullshit.
If you infer something from something that's on you.
I feel that kind of interpretation is more region specific. Specifically, West Coast?
Midwest, actually!
If someone says you’re welcome, you know they are a corporate drone and management wants them to say that to avoid certain people making a scene. Why’s it insincere to say no problem? In the same vein, they only said you’re welcome because they are complying too.
There’s no issues with saying no problem unless you want there to be. Those are cool workplaces.
Maybe they should just die, that way they don't have to face a world they clearly can't deal with.
There is a difference, but it's not one of inherent meaning, it's more or less a generational culture difference.
I'll place this here and pre-emptively say that assisting your understanding was... no problem https://youtu.be/eGnH0KAXhCw?si=sVBI__SCJ3mQkkWo
Not an important difference, no.
Your feelings are valid and real. But as a society, the new standard is that there's no difference. If you decide to catch up, it will lead to much fewer hurt emotions.