Disclaimer: I have no quarrel with the mods using the term in the creation of this community. I understand why they chose it, as even if they share my disagreement with the term when applied to ADHD, there's not really a better inclusive term. "Mental illness" is really the only other option, and naming a community that would probably invite darker discussions that the mods might not be prepared to handle.
Another disclaimer: I think the term is perfectly valid when applied to autism, as autism is not, to the best of my knowledge, a mental illness so much as a difference in processing. Being autistic is only "bad" in the sense that our society discourages autistic traits. (Apologies if this is wrong; I'm neither autistic nor especially knowledgeable about autism.)
The term "neurodivergent" implies that there's nothing wrong with you if you have ADHD--you're just special and different. But my ADHD is an illness that requires treatment. A lot of people will tell you that the only reason ADHDers struggle is because society is set up wrong, but I don't think that's true, at least for me. Being unable to remember anything, unable to self-start, and hypersensitive to rejection would be massive problems in any world. Sure, the world today is particularly brutal for ADHDers in a way we could probably mitigate if we reorganized society to be kinder, but that doesn't mean ADHD isn't ultimately a disorder that some people need to treat with medication and therapy.
Honestly, I liked the term a lot when I heard it. With competition like 'learning disability' and 'a bit on the spectrum', it was like a breath of fresh air. If it makes people who don't have ADHD less likely to bully kids at school, then it may be worth the inaccuracy.
Plus, it hits the point that you can't make broad assumptions about people with ADHD. Some people need medication/ therapy. Some people have coping strategies that reduce or eliminate the need for either. A lot of people are still trying to figure things out.
I understand why you'd feel that way, but I suspect it will become just another slur as time goes on, the way all terms that start off as neutral or positive terms for Being Different^TM^ do. Wouldn't be surprised if kids are calling one another neurodivergent as an insult in a generation or two.
Fair point. I wouldn't be surprised if I get sick and tired of hearing it in a year or two.
just to add, this is known as an "euphemism treadmill"
This is a great way to describe the phenomenon, but I wonder what people will be calling it ten years from now.