Not sure I every really found out, tbh. The gender identity was more at odds with society so sexuality has always seemed less pertinent in virtue of being relative. What good is a box for my sexuality when I'm already considered a "deviant", y'know?

The general trend of my sexuality made me feel like my gender identity wasn't real or valid or whatever. Finding a partner was more of an immediate survival thing when I was younger since my living parent was my abuser.

Having married as a teen, I am cosmically lucky that my spouse continues to be my absolute best friend who ended up not having any gendered preferences in sexuality.

We're theoretically ENM, but in practice, relationships are hella work and neither of us has dated in years. At any rate, I've never managed to determine the precise character of my sexuality and I don't know if I ever will.

Human bodies aren't really all that different and it's always seemed weird that so much weight is placed on what specific configurations of genitals a person prefers 🤷