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Thanks for the link. Yes I have a daughter considering this. When I look it up I only find generic descriptions and 'it will take 2-3 weeks to heal', which really sounds unrealistic to me. I worry that surgeons doing this kind of work over sell it, and the desire of patients for it to be as good as they hope might cloud their judgement of the realities.
2-3 weeks to heal is wishful thinking. That's the first healing stage, after which my surgeon allowed me to do things more than light lifting. 4-6 weeks to return to work. 3 months to have sex. But healing generally continues until about a year post op. Incidentally it took me about a year to be able to orgasm (it's been several years now and I'd say it's probably easier now than pre op)
My surgeon was a reputable surgeon at a reputable institution and showed me pictures of her work during consultation and gave me realistic expectations. There were complications (there often are) but they were ultimately temporary issues. And the trans community gave me a realistic but positive expectation compared to my personal experience.
If you have any questions I may be able to answer some. If anything push your daughter to look up and ask around about surgeons (word gets around about bad ones) and push her towards reputable ones who are willing to make her feel comfortable in their care and who explain what's going on and what's going to happen to her.
Thanks so much for the info. That description is actually is very reassuring to me as it feels much more realistic to me. And reasonable. It's a reputable institution (in Montreal). Part of the issue here is that my daughter with severe ADHD, possibly autistic, and huge anxiety issues can't really organize doing this herself. So if it's going to happen I'll have to be actively involved even though she's an adult. So I feel rather responsible and need to be educated, but the doctors won't talk to me directly since I'm not the patient.
Are you sure it's weeks you read and not months? 2-3 months is a pretty standard timeframe to recover from a vaginoplasty
Thanks. I suspect the 2-3 weeks that my daughter has quoted is the timeframe that she will be unable to do much of anything. I'm not sure if she realizes that though. 2-3 months seems much more likely.