It's a difficult thing to do.

We, humans, are kinda built to run on a series of memories and experiences that build up, telling us what's safe and what isn't. In an ideal world, this means that new things can be compared against those templates and guide is to safe movement through life.

But when it comes to situations where those templates get challenged from the outside, we're scrabbling on the inside against all these alarms saying "but what about...". It's a process by which we are forced to doubt ourselves. That's not what you'd call a recommended thing. The more we doubt ourselves, the more confusion, distress, dissonance, and anxiety we feel.

Trying to initiate that from the inside? That's shit that can take decades of therapy when you're dysfunctional. It isn't much easier when you're not, but most people have at least a little dysfunction.

It's a skill to self examine and self critique. Like any skill, you have to practice to get good. But, unlike most other skills, your brain is fighting you the entire time.

But it's necessary. Not just on this topic. It's a skill we all need to at least dabble in, lest we fall into the trap of never changing at all