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[-] temeela 54 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You cannot leave me because I'm leaving you, well that situation solved itself. That said I am concerned about 196.

[-] alycat 24 points 1 year ago

People are so caught up with hating hexbear users that the whole 196 mod drama is probably going to be overlooked. I'm waiting to see the statement from our instance mods before deciding if this place is really for me

[-] ada 29 points 1 year ago

What sort of statement? Except for the ableist comments that occurred last night when I was sleeping, everything else in that post had been actively addressed long before hexbear was on the scene.

The issues around ableism occurred when I was in bed, and I addressed them first thing this morning, removing the content in question and sending comms to the person in question making our standards clear.

[-] alycat 8 points 1 year ago

Thank you for addressing that.

I was expecting a statement about mod integrity on 196 and Moss leaking DMs to start drama, but after sleeping on it I think that some of the issues raised by HB are somewhat disingenuous (e.g. the transphobia cited). I still have concerns about the maturity of the 196 mod team though.

For what it's worth, this whole situation just shows how good of an admin you are. For that I don't think I'm leaving

[-] leraje 7 points 1 year ago

The issues around ableism occurred when I was in bed, and I addressed them first thing this morning, removing the content in question and sending comms to the person in question making our standards clear.

Thank you :)

[-] 5ubieee 15 points 1 year ago

if that screenshot of the mod log isn’t leaving out important context then this looks pretty bad, hexbear users aren’t alone in seeing a decent amount of reactionary language and talking points here in the past few weeks. in all fairness tho most of it probably isn’t intentional

[-] Entertainmeonly 11 points 1 year ago

I'm out of the loop. Whats going on with the mods on 196?

[-] alycat 18 points 1 year ago

This contains the most recent issue: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1989401

There was also leaking DMs, subtle transphobia / chaser issues (a bit like the reddit 196). If you read the hexbear post they have screenshots

[-] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 25 points 1 year ago

I'm not a chaser, please stop with that. It's one quote that was taken totally out of context.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2120879

[-] Entertainmeonly 11 points 1 year ago
[-] good_girl 7 points 1 year ago

Yeah I'm all out. I'll keep modding my art and nsfw comms (though they're somewhat inactive) but that's as far as I'll go.

[-] Franzia 1 points 1 year ago

We have to stay strong and get the right people in place.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 21 points 1 year ago

They exited on mutual agreement I guess

Well technically not mutual agreement until/unless we also defederate from them. Which I still am in support of.

[-] audiomodder 20 points 1 year ago

Isn’t it funny how there were no complaints until there was a post here asking about defederation?

[-] RoseTintedGlasses 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

[I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

[-] moss 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

What chaser things have I defended?? I'm trans I don't see how I could be a chaser and I don't even know what I could do to earn the title. It seems like this post was never brought to our attention, because we check every report we receive and remove the ones that should be removed. What we don't check, however, is every post as we do not have the mod numbers for that. We can only see what you guys bring to our attention through reports.

[-] hypelightfly@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

They're referring to the screenshot of a post where you said a user's comment about who they are attracted to was not transphobic and to stop reporting it.

IIRC, at the time it lead to the thread being removed due to other transphobic comments. When asked Ada clarified that the comment hexbear is complaining about as being a chaser was not the reason for this post:

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/1246514

[-] moss 17 points 1 year ago

Yeah neither of us viewed the comment as a problem. There was a bunch of stuff surrounding it, and the user did end up getting some stuff removed, and I did end up having to delete the thread, but none of that was due to the original comment

[-] RoseTintedGlasses 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

[I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

[-] moss 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Oh yeah I remember this whole fiasco. The argument was literally just attraction to body types/features versus attraction to genders. This person was expressing that they're only attracted to archetypaly "female" body features but are open to dating any one of any gender identity. The whole fight is basically just people thinking that they're fetishizing trans men when they're just expressing that well they're fine with dating someone with a masculine identity, they don't think it would work if the person wasn't comfortable in a feminine body. I don't really want to get into this again, but there's nothing wrong with that in it of itself.

[-] NuMetalAlchemist 21 points 1 year ago

Some folks refuse to believe there are different levels of dysphoria. Like so many things, it's a spectrum.

[-] moss 19 points 1 year ago

Seriously! I'm transfem, have been for years, 2 years on hormones, but I have no problem with my voice. Let it be masculine! Who the fuck cares. It doesn't matter! Lot of trans people feel similar ways about different things

[-] NuMetalAlchemist 18 points 1 year ago

Due to hormone issues, I was basically presented with a choice to transition if I wanted. It was a serious consideration that I had to make. Took over a year to decide. I wished I was fem (still kinda do) but I couldn't part with my lil buddy. Femboys weren't really a thing back then, so yeah. Not every GQ person needs to want to undergo GRS to "qualify" as trans. Gatekeepy bullshit.

[-] moss 13 points 1 year ago

REAL. thank you for sharing your story!

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