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Hi, Ivy Astrix here. I saw some of my work referenced here so figured I'd pop in and do an AMA. I did harm reduction at Vibecamp 1/2, and Vibegala 1/2. Happy to answer what I can as long as it doesn't violate confidences or isn't in service of personal grievances.

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[-] YourNetworkIsHaunted@awful.systems 3 points 11 hours ago

One thing I found really interesting in your recent more reflective writing was part of your experience with hereticon 1:

I think one of the hardest things you can do, and the greatest gifts you can give someone, is give the situation to them straight when they invite you somewhere. I would realize later that the ‘protection’ I felt in a lot of left-leaning circles was a lot more transitory and a lot less honest than what the supposedly irredeemable far-right conference had done for me.

One thing that I see in some broadly left-leaning communities when engaging with some of these concerns is to effectively dismiss the women who have been victimized, often with some reference to the face-eating leopard party. (This doesn't seem to happen as much here at awful.systems, which is one of many things I'll say in favor of our community's standards and practices of moderation and whatever else). This is obviously cruel and unfair to those women, but I want to ask about the underlying idea that the way that these social groups or organizations treat women who talk about SA in those communities is consistent with their general political ideologies, since it seems like there's something missing from that idea beyond the simple lack of empathy.

[-] ivyastrix@awful.systems 4 points 10 hours ago

yeah i mean it's complex i think!

in general there is a code of silence and social harmony is always favoured, and i am actually a little torn on 'illegibility': it does make for cool spaces but it allows ppl in those spaces to avoid problems by never really stating those values

ie communities that don't have 'we support victims of sexual violence' codified anywhere and it's just an assumed thing which often turns out not to be true, normies handle it poorly, rationalists/etc handle it really poorly, i think Kathy Forth was really right in that you have to specifically want to handle it well to actually do that otherwise you are very likely to do more harm than good to vulnerable women

a major boggle I have is that there are some very bright lines in civil law as to what an event must do, especially that when drugs and alcohol or present they must plan for sexual assault happening and it just seems like there's no awareness of reality even when events have a lawyer

i think it's just that the stars have not yet aligned for someone to have a relatively winnable case such that these communities will be forced to have a reckoning because of the laws of the default world (this is why I'm very bearish on network states now, I've seen how they can be used as a way to dodge legal obligations)

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