yeah i mean it's complex i think!

in general there is a code of silence and social harmony is always favoured, and i am actually a little torn on 'illegibility': it does make for cool spaces but it allows ppl in those spaces to avoid problems by never really stating those values

ie communities that don't have 'we support victims of sexual violence' codified anywhere and it's just an assumed thing which often turns out not to be true, normies handle it poorly, rationalists/etc handle it really poorly, i think Kathy Forth was really right in that you have to specifically want to handle it well to actually do that otherwise you are very likely to do more harm than good to vulnerable women

a major boggle I have is that there are some very bright lines in civil law as to what an event must do, especially that when drugs and alcohol or present they must plan for sexual assault happening and it just seems like there's no awareness of reality even when events have a lawyer

i think it's just that the stars have not yet aligned for someone to have a relatively winnable case such that these communities will be forced to have a reckoning because of the laws of the default world (this is why I'm very bearish on network states now, I've seen how they can be used as a way to dodge legal obligations)