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Feeling conflicted (skirts) (lemmy.zip)
submitted 2 days ago by SkyeMors@lemmy.zip to c/mtf
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So I'm 30mtf (generally- on meds for a bit now, gender is confusing), and I'm into clothing and style, comfort and stuff- so I figured that maybe skirts would be great! So I ordered two- a short-ish one and a long-ish one, in case one doesn't feel right.

But of course, the short one arrived first. It's a pleated black tennis skirt, so it's a little rigid and has a (skort? shorts but under the skirt for modesty).... and.... not for me (yet?), sadly. I've worn jeans and sweatpants and shorts and such that I as a guy could just... wear, normally. So anyway, tried it on, it's a fine fit, but.... my ass has never felt so exposed, I'mma be honest. And it wasn't even, it's just the lack of tightness just under the buttocks that skirts just don't do, making it feel super weird for me even though it was a mostly modest length of skirt. Hopefully the longer one (with belt loops!) feels better- it's about ankle-length by my estimate, and flowy and.... I think it's teal? I forget. It gets here in a week or so. Maybe eventually I'll be able to wear it around the house, but... ah, I bromode too much to try being cute or wear anything cute in public (yet).

so thanks for coming and reading me ramble about my new skirt, hope it was entertaining enough for a few minutes :3

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[-] Vibi 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I hope the longer one feels better for you! I personally enjoy maxi skirts sooo much more (with the occasional midi) than shorter styles. Maxi skirts flow so elegantly, and there's so many different styles! I love tiered ones the most 🩷 They also come with the benefit of less hair maintenance. I've had my legs lasered, but there's a few hairs that grow in occasionally that I still need to trim; with a maxi skirt, you don't need to worry so much during any lazy phases! It's also just the best feeling when people approach me and describe my style as elegant and ethereal, or when children shyly say I look like a princess 🥺

[-] SkyeMors@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago

Oh that's so sweet! I hope to get to the point someday where I can stop bromoding in public and getting all the "bro" and "dude" and no comment on how cool I look, and move on to looking cute, perhaps even pretty someday. c:

[-] Vibi 4 points 1 day ago

It can be sooo difficult navigating and feeling comfortable in a new style 🫂 When I first started transitioning, even wearing new colors brought me anxiety. I had worn jeans, black t-shirts, and a hoodie my whole life just trying to be invisible. I literally hadn't worn shorts for over 20 years. My first step was just wearing pink t-shirts and replacing my cool designs with cute ones. Then came wearing shorts; they were also pink, but I found ones with floral designs to breakup the monotone pink effect. Then came the skirts! It was soooo nerve wracking at first, but after the first week I knew I'd never go back to pants or shorts. Tops and blouses were be a bit of a challenge, but I found I look best in ones that have plunge or scoop neck. Having more skin showing in the chest area makes my shoulders look less broad and doesn't frame my face/neck as much making things appear overall softer. I hope you keep exploring and experimenting!! Sometimes it takes just one piece or outfit to find a style that clicks with you 🩷

this post was submitted on 13 May 2026
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