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Sooooo first off i highly recommend the breast form store, look for it on google or whatevs. Their great, and if you need extra help with fit and stuff they are great in that dept as well. Not an ad, just love their work. Also will ship discreetly to you, plain package with a generic return address, if thats a concern.
So, you looked and got forms, now what? Well to start you can get pocketed bras, from the same place or elsewhere, thatll help you get a feel for having them and being able to adjust somewhat on the fly is good. They slip right into the pocket, and is by far the easiest way to wear them.
But i wanna wear this skimpy top and my bra shows! Or i wanna go braless! Never you fear, medical grade adhesive is here! All these next products are available on amazon, but look for them elsewhere if you dont want to fund bezobubs new rocket. I personally use (and HIGHLY recommend) skinister medical silicone adhesive, paired with UniSolve wipes to clean them afterward. This adhesive is the only one i ever tried that will hold, no matter what you do, for as long as you want it to hold.
Wear gloves and thank me later. You spread an even layer of adhesive (less is more, 2-3 sprays is usually enough for mine) and apply where you want. You then want a nice comfy underwired and supportive bra to wear for atleast a half hour. The best way is to apply, lean back in a chair or lay down, and apply moderate pressure evenly for 10-20 minutes. Seems long, but its the difference between holding and peeling.
Some other notes i dont see often enough, but i feel are super important:
-good lord, tape your nips! I use the same kinesiology tape as for tucking. Trust me, your nipples are very sensitive and forms do tug and pull and shift, even though they are glued down.
-never spray the adhesive directly on your skin. Never let oil touch forms. But do get a bottle of baby oil for any adhesive residue on your skin. Its the best way to remove it without messing up your skin.
-you do you, they say not to wear them to sleep or to not wear them for looong periods of time, ive done both. Like everything else in life, its about your risk tolerance vs reward.
-take them off slowly, not tons of pressure, youll hurt yourself. Clean them with adhesive remover everytime after your done. Wash with mild soap and water at least every other time (i recommend toy cleaner from your local adult store)
-you might have to get a few different ones to figure out size. The size guide is generally pretty good.
unfortunately forms do not grow or shrink with you. If you like your look, and gain 15lbs, you might need different ones. Its a learning process for sure, and im here to help anyone here anytime.
Oh and once you figure out size and all, get a backup pair! They ARE fragile! If you poke a hole in them, or put extreme pressure, theyre done and you cant really repair them. My cats clawed mine one time when i didnt put them away quickly enough and i was devasted. Also get a good storage solution for them, especially if you have pets. I use a harbor freight pelican case knockoff.
Wow thats alot of text, sorry for the novel! Hope this helps anyone who does read it ❤️
Quick edit: this is all me using the cheapest forms on there, and theyre in all my pictures. I feel like im gonna grow my own, so i dont wanna spend thousands on them, mine are 90$ generally. Im not recommending the hugely expensive ones here
That is really helpful thank you! Not gunna lie it's alot, but it's really good information and I really appreciate it! I feel like I already have a solid foundation on how to use breast forms, and knowing I can reach out really helps.
No problem! Its better when we all share what works and what doesnt