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I wasn't talking about attraction as such. Like, I won't date people who don't identify with queerness in some way. I'm not "queersexual" but rather, it's a personal preference and understanding of my own needs that influences who I date above and beyond who I'm attracted to. My last boyfriend for example, I was attracted to him romantically and sexually, but he wasn't queer, and I felt like my queerness was invisible when I was with him. And so after we broke up, I decided that I won't enter another relationship like that.
And similarly, there are people who are technically bisexual, but who won't date men, despite having attraction, even romantic attraction to them.
I had an acquaintance years ago who was almost exclusively attracted to men, but he had been in a relationship with a woman for over a decade and feared that his gay credentials were in question. He would never leave her though.