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I want to be pregnant. That is all. (self.mtf)
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No, but seriously, I'd love to have someone growing inside me. That's my ultimate wish. I REALLY want to be pregnant :(

Anyone else?

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[-] dandelion 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I never wanted children in my life, and I was quite clear on this from a young age. I felt so strongly about this that I had myself sterilized as a teenager, in fact.

Then estrogen changed everything, it flipped a biological switch and some part of me began to notice and be envious of mothers with their kids, I started to yearn to be pregnant, and began to grieve from the impossibility of ever having a child with my partner.

If I could get pregnant, I'm not 100% sure I would do it. I don't trust myself to be a good enough mother and to provide for a child, but it is quite clear to me the biological drive to get pregnant is fully in place and I desire to be pregnant in deep and unchangeable ways.

Maybe someday I will foster or adopt, but again I don't trust myself to not emotionally wound a child (I'm not at the point where I can avoid hurting other people in my life, and a child is more sensitive and the impacts are much greater).

So as a matter of harm reduction I resist my desire to be a parent, it is similar in some ways to how I resist adopting pets (for similar reasons, I don't trust myself to care for them to the extent I would want).

If I were wealthy enough and had done enough work on myself, I would feel much more comfortable being a parent (whether for a child or a pet), but that's just not in the cards for me, so I'm going to have to learn to be OK with that. Instead I put my energies into the people already in my lives, including taking better care of myself. Learning to parent myself has been a long-term project. :-)

[-] regdog@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I admire you conviction, but I don't think you have to forbid yourself having pets. Some pets required less efforts than others. If you have enough resources (time, money, space) to care for a pet, than I would say go try it out.

I would say that dogs are high effort pets that you should avoid, because they require lots of your time. In some ways they are like little kids and the sense that they require constant supervision.

And then there are cats. They are much more independent animals than dogs. They only require a place to eat, another place to shit, and that is basically it.

If there is an animal shelter near you then I would suggest talking to the people there. In my experience the people who work there are loving and caring, and they will tell you what is best both for the animal, and the potential owner.

[-] aeternum 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I grew up with doggos (they're VERY clingy and require a lot of attention and time), but i have a cat now. I prefer cats. I struggle to look after myself (i always make sure my cat is looked after though), so having an animal that is content to just lounge around with me is perfect.

[-] dandelion 1 points 1 week ago

I didn't mention, but I also grew up with lots of pets. My home life wasn't always the best, and I saw a lot of animal neglect and had some experiences as a kid that make me feel like not owning pets. I do love them, but I know the grief and suffering would be too much for me.

Also on a practical level, pets are expensive and restrict where you can live. They are a very long term commitment. I also prefer to be vegan and it's pretty hard to be a vegan pet owner.

Anyway, yes - my darling pets are houseplants, for reasons that are hopefully clear now. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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