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submitted 1 month ago by those_who_wonder to c/mtf

I've gone my whole life (I'm 35) NOT thinking I was trans but now I do, wtf am I supposed to do with this? How do I find out for sure? Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I'm not attracted to men? Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life? I'm jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

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[-] NelDel 10 points 1 month ago

Im a trans lesbian & its absolutely ok! Despite my understanding of my gender changing a lot, my sexuality stayed almost the exact same before & after coming out.

I highly recommend looking into a supportive therapist to talk things through & figure out how you want to handle your feelings & possible transition. One thing I'll say for sure is that I thought it would ruin my life too, but I'm happier than ever & the people that showed up for me when I came out are closer to me than ever. Felt like I could finally breathe again when I started transitioning

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