how do i take things slow with my gf? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 2 weeks ago by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/lesbians

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so, we are holding hands but she doesn’t wanna kiss or anything because she wants to wait a while so we take it slow because i started dating her a week ago. however, i am very attached and expressive with my love and she is… less?? how can we make things work and how do i make it so i change and take things slower??

Right now, i’m too bummed out and depressed to want to be romantic or attached, so that’s “good” i guess

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[-] atheqtpie 16 points 2 weeks ago

It's cute that you're already feeling the "honeymoon" feelings, but I think you should talk to her and go at her pace so she feels comfortable too. If you're feeling bummed, try self-care first and don't feel pressured too much to be super attached. Maybe set goals and keep it consensual, like hand holding, then hugging, etc.

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