I honestly don't know you personally, but my point is that maybe you don't need all of that in one person. Maybe you just need someone who will support you in things you find value in and encourage you to pursue your passions, but you'll actually pursue them with different groups of people.

And that's the point of going out and making friendship a priority. Friends can meet a lot of needs and reduce what you need from a romantic partner. If you can separate what roles a romantic partner must satisfy from what can be satisfied by friend groups, your pool of potential partners increases substantially.

For example, I'm really nerdy and into a lot of weird technical stuff. My SO is quite different and doesn't know what I'm talking about half the time, and is really into art and related things. We do things together where we overlap, and the rest is with other friend groups.

I think people get hung up looking for the perfect fit instead of a good fit.

openness, honesty and respect are VITAL

Exactly!