Hi, fellow (at the moment) hetero, cis man 🙂

I mostly share your point of view and feelings, with a couple nuances. I've never felt strongly about my own gender, but still hate toxic masculinity with a passion. I've often chosen to pose as genderless just to avoid being associated with the "stereotypical man", but I've come to think that one doesn't need to be queer just to denounce toxic behaviors. There are some, few, role models of "positive masculinity", that one can follow, without changing labels. I don't think that "men" should let the toxic ones monopolize that label; positive masculinity should reclaim it, and push the toxic ones out!

As for gender, sexuality, attraction... they're all on a spectrum, and not necessarily at a single fixed point, or intensity. Artistic sensibility is on its own, also not necessarily related to the others. I don't think that simply being able to appreciate a beautiful man, or woman, or lamp post, is enough to call oneself "queer". We may not be like the "stereotypical macho man", but that doesn't mean one should renounce whichever label resonates more with oneself.