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What is something you wish cis people knew?
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Well said, social reality is just as real as any other kind of reality - the language we use is part of how we reify our concepts and regulate others within them.
It definitely is. The Problem here is, that it is quite hard to communicate this to people who aren't really aware of the situation. Before I had the realisation that I Am trans I also didnt really belief, that speech forms a reality and that using a male ford as a general word for all genders does hurt other people, especially trans people. The problem here is, that for understanding, why this is the case people kind of have to understand what gender dysphoria is and how it feels.
I don't think you have to get people to understand dysphoria to understand the problem, just use the feminine to refer to a group and the men in the group will understand immediately how off it feels :-)
Fair enough. That's a kinda good approach. If that doesn't work it gets hard to explain the whole thing to others without taking a deep dive into Dysphoria
yes, I just don't think cis people will understand dypshoria, even as a trans person I barely understand it tbh - it's enough to just say it doesn't feel good to be misgendered, and anyone seems to be able to understand that