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The struggle is real
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On the one hand I somewhat hate my old name and getting referred to as male, but on the other hand I would actually have to correct others to use my preferred name/pronouns.
Edit: Its not that im uncomfortable with she/her or that I have to fear of people having a negative reaction over it, but instead that I simply do not like to correct people so I do not "fulfill" the st ereotype of "the annoying trans person that constantly annoys you about pronouns". Is it completely irrational to think like that (especially since all of the people I interact with are very accepting)? Yes! Do I still feel that way? Also yes!
right!? I don't like complaining about pronoun circles too much because I understand they're important for some folks, but I wish zealous liberals were a little more sensitive in their application.
Often times evading the pronoun question came across to people as transphobic and reactionary. I suspect this was also why so often in pronoun circles the facilitator clarified that an answer was required, which only made me (ironically usually the only trans person in the room) distressed and stigmatized.
Just making the question a little more optional could help people who need to disclose identity and pronouns to do so, and people who don't mind identifying to do so, but still leave an escape hatch for the gender-distressed in the room 😅