Hi,
I'm a recently cracked egg, and I figure I might as well introduce myself here.
I made it to age 31 before I figured it out. I've been dating a trans girl for over 3 years before realizing that I also am one, so I'm coming into it with a lot of knowledge, and as soon as my mind was opened to it I very quickly became sure of it. On the plus side, that means that I don't have any doubts about it myself.
So far I've told my girlfriend, therapist, parents, and some online friends. Mostly they've taken it well (My therapist and girlfriend were apparently expecting it before I realized it myself), although my dad has been somewhat resistant. I've been trying to convince him that it's right for me, with moderate success. I think I will be able to bring him around, with some more time. I've been too chicken to tell others that I know IRL, so far.
Also... now is not really a great time to be transitioning, given the current state of the world, especially the US (where I live). I think I definitely want to go ahead with it anyways, but I'll probably take some time before I pull the trigger on a social transition, and try to prepare some things beforehand. In particular, I want to do voice training in advance, and probably work on some fashion and makeup skills so I can immediately transition my voice and surface level appearance when I social transition.
I don't know if my new employer (starting next month) will be accepting of it, either, so maybe I want to work that job for a bit to get experience and test the waters before I decide how to proceed. I probably want to get some experience from that job before I bounce from it, so it would be ideal if they are accepting.
Hi! I’m in a similar situation, too; just coming to terms with the realization in my 40s that I’m trans and struggling with the impact it’s going to have not only on me, but also on my spouse and child, and confronting fears about the state of the country and the world and all the hate out there. I haven’t found the courage to tell anyone other than my spouse, my therapist, and a few of my online friends yet. My spouse is trying to be supportive, but she’s also feeding some of those fears by speculating about how my parents and her parents might react, etc.