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when did you change in your dreams? (self.mtf)
submitted 1 week ago by dandelion to c/mtf
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Last night I had a dream where I was socially interacting as male, had male anatomy, etc. - it usually disturbs me when I wake up and realize my unconscious is operating this way, it feels like I don't see myself as a woman, which is true on a conscious level but it's painful when I don't even see myself as a woman in my dreams.

Sometimes even before transition trans women see themselves as women in their dreams, and I marvel at that. I think part of my denial was integrating every internal part of me that felt female as being actually authentically male, that all men are actually feminine in this way or that. So the authentically feminine parts of me still feel "male".

Anyway, I just wanted to do a quick poll and see:

(if any transmasc folks or enbies are reading this, I would love your input too, even though I'm using gendered language, I don't mean to be excluding)

  • did you have dreams where you were a woman before you transitioned?
  • what was the process like of your internal concept changing as you transitioned?
  • when did you start appearing as a woman in your dreams post-transition? (did the frequency increase post-transition, what was that change like?)
  • how do you relate to your self-conception, does it disturb you to be a man in your dreams, is it a relief to be a woman in your dreams?
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[-] dandelion 2 points 6 days ago

oh interesting, that does seem right that the dreams incorporate your real life scenarios, all the anxieties and anticipated scenarios as well.

Hopefully the family member interactions don't go as badly as your dreams imply they will 🫂

I will say, when I transitioned people were much less hateful than I expected, almost nobody in my life had an issue with it. A lot of people just don't care as much as I thought they would - I projected my fears onto everyone, but what I found is that only a few people really were bothered by it, and usually for reasons that had more to do with them than me or my actual transition.

Hopefully your experience transitioning is also smoother than anticipated🤞

[-] ElfBean@fedia.io 3 points 6 days ago

I'm mostly worried about my grandmother - it's been at least 6 years and she still treats my cousin's bf like a girl despite having it explained to her multiple times that he's a man. She's definitely a product of her generation, but it's the refusal to listen and even try to learn that gets to me. Other than that everyone's been cool with it, though my parents are still slipping up constantly. As for everything else it's going surprisingly well so far; I've already started noticing some stuff that should usually take a couple months to kick in

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